First-date horror stories.
There’s no denying that first dates are like difficult mazes that people have to navigate properly. First dates can be incredibly nerve-wracking and anxiety-inducing. First dates can be very exciting but they can also be extremely intimidating. And it’s normal for you to be scared before going on a first date with someone. But you should always try your best to never let your nerves get the best of you. Make sure that you don’t completely destroy your chances at going on a second date by being a complete disaster on your first. So you really have to know what a failed first date looks like so you can make sure to avoid getting stuck in one (or worse, actually causing one). Here are 11 toxic ingredients of a failed first date that you have to do your best to avoid.
1. You don’t show up on time.
Tardiness is always going to be a big no-no on the first date. You have to be respectful of your partner’s time and you can do that by actually showing up at the time you agree on meeting. Even if you’re just a few minutes late, it goes to show that you’re irresponsible and that you don’t really care much for the time of the person you’re on a date with.
2. You don’t listen as much as you talk.
Communication is good. Whether you’re in a new relationship or not, it’s always good to be communicative and expressive with your partner. But you also have to keep in mind that communication is a two-way street. You have to be willing to listen just as much as you’re willing to express yourself. You don’t want to come off as someone self-centered and conceited.
3. You look at your phone more than your date.
Keep your eyes locked on your date and not on your phone. Don’t be so disrespectful to not actually be looking at your date. Your social media feeds can wait until after you get home from your date. For now, focus on the human being that’s right in front you.
4. You share too much information about your life.
There is such a thing as oversharing and you have to make sure to not do it on a first date. Yes, being honest and communicative is good. But you also have to know your limits. You can’t be making your life an open book. You have to maintain a little mystery in the early phases of a potential relationship.
5. You don’t restrain your wandering eyes.
Keep your eyes on your date. Yes, you might be nervous. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be constantly looking away. You might make your date think that they don’t really interest you.
6. You think too far ahead into the future.
Yes, it’s good to be forward-thinking in a relationship, but with first dates, you have to focus on the present. Avoid talks of long-term commitments. The most you can do is actually talk about the possibility of seeing each other again for a second date.
7. You don’t expound much on your answers.
If your date asks you a yes or no question, don’t be content with just responding with a yes or no. Show some enthusiasm and animation with your responses. You can’t be content with just sticking to one-word answers. If you do so, don’t expect your date to find you very interesting.
8. You clearly act like a person you’re not comfortable with being.
When you’re on a first date with someone, you should always just be yourself. If you try forcing yourself to be someone you’re not, then you risk having to sustain that act for the rest of your life. And also, it can become pretty obvious when you get uncomfortable having to sustain a charade.
9. You bring up the topic of exes.
Don’t bring up talks of exes. Focus on this potential new relationship that you’re starting. If you bring up exes, you might be reopening old wounds that should have been left untouched in the first place.
10. You overdo it with your alcohol intake.
It’s okay to take a little alcohol just for a dose of liquid courage. In can probably even help things loosen up a little especially when your date is drinking along with you. But you don’t want to overdo it with the alcohol to the point where you become mentally impaired. You don’t want to be making a fool of yourself by not being able to control your liquor.
11. You bring up the fact that you stalked your date online beforehand.
Even though it seems like normal behavior to stalk your date before the initial encounter, it’s never something that you should be admitting outright. You have to be discreet about this because it’s incredibly when you stalk someone even if it’s done with good intentions. Just act cool and try your best to not betray yourself in this situation.
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