Sex can be such an awkward and taboo topic when you’re growing up. Sure, a lot of us are exposed to the basic biology of it all. We are taught about the scientific aspects of it and what the act entails. We also get our dose of toilet humor about the topic from friends and media. But when it comes to exploring the deep and emotional aspects of sex, we often have to figure those parts out on our own. And a lot of times, we have to go through a lot of very awkward mistakes before we gain the experience that we need to actually be confident about what we’re doing. Part of it is the fact that parents and school teachers tend to be very awkward and shy about discussing these things with you as you’re growing up.
And when you try to turn to your friends for advice, it’s all moot because they’re just as inexperienced and clueless as you. In fact, turning to your peers for advice about sex can often do more harm than good. And you don’t want to learn that the hard way. So regardless if you’re someone who is experienced in sex and you are just as frustrated as me; or if you’re someone who is still completely clueless and you need a guide to help steer you in the right direction, this is the article for you:
1. Cuddling is not a post-requisite to sex.
You don’t have to stay and cuddle with your partner right after you guys have sex. You can go ahead and wash up and go home; or you can go right to sleep. It’s not always like how you see it in the movies.
2. The more inexperienced you are with sex, the messier and clumsier it’s going to be.
You’re not going to have a flawless and magical experience on your first try. And that’s okay. It’s going to take a lot of practice before you can get things down. And even then, there is still a lot to learn about having sex.
3. Sex can go horribly wrong if you don’t know what you’re doing.
There are plenty of downsides to having uneducated sex. Physical injuries. Unwanted pregnancies. Hurt feelings. Drama. The list goes on and on.
4. Always use the rubber if you don’t want to have kids.
Condoms are the most effective means to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Sure; you might not like how the rubber feels on the skin. But if you’re not ready to be a parent, be responsible about it. It’s essential that you’re not reckless with your sexual practices. You also want to make sure that you’re protecting yourself from potential diseases from people you don’t know too well.
5. The girl’s reproductive organ isn’t the only pleasure point.
There are other parts of the body that you can explore to achieve orgasm as well. Be creative. Don’t limit yourself.
6. It’s always important to experiment during sex in order to keep things interesting.
It’s nice to have a routine that you can always fall back on. It’s nice to have your set of go-to moves. But sex is always best when it’s spontaneous and organic. The more unexpected your sex is, the better it’s going to be a lot of the time.
7. You shouldn’t have to feel guilty about wanting to have sex.
It’s a natural human urge that we all have. If you’re feeling that urge; if you’re feeling horny, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty about it. It’s completely normal to have these needs.
8. It’s always important to be open and communicative to your partner about sex.
When you have a partner who you’re engaging in constant sexual relations with, then it’s important that the both of you stay open to one another. You must always be communicating your sexual needs to each other in an effective and honest manner.
9. Sex is as much emotional as it is physical.
There are plenty of people in the world who consider the emotional aspect of sex to be just as important as the physical aspect of sex. You have to keep this in mind on your sexual adventures.
10. There are very few things in the world that feel better than orgasming.
It’s the best. It’s absolutely amazing. It’s the pinnacle of human pleasure. There is nothing quite like it. And it all comes about so naturally. You just have to make sure that you’re doing it right.
11. It can take a few tries before you really figure out what you want out of sex.
You’re not always to get things right the first time. And that’s okay. Sometimes, it can really take a while before you figure things out.
12. Self-pleasure is always acceptable.
Sometimes, sex just isn’t going to be an option. And you’re going to have to make do with what you have. Your partner might not be available. Or you might not have a partner in general. This is when you have to rely on yourself to satisfy your own needs. That’s nothing you should be ashamed about.