Cheating absolutely sucks. There should be no room for any kind of infidelity or unfaithfulness in a romantic relationship. There is absolutely no rational scenario on earth that would make cheating justifiable. There is no circumstance wherein cheating is okay. But still, it happens. And you need to brace yourself for it when it does.
When you get into a relationship with someone, you always want to be seeing the best of them. You always want to assume that they’re going to do right by you and that they would never betray you. However, the fact of the matter is that it’s still possible that the person you love the most is going to betray you.
That’s why you still want to be keeping your guard up. You still want to be keeping vigilant. And a lot of that lies in making sure that you be on the lookout for any red flags. If you’re curious as to what you should be looking out for, then read on until the end of this article.
Highlighted here will be a few phrases that your partner will utter that might serve as potential red flags for cheating and infidelity. If you notice that your partner says a lot of the things listed here, then you need to stay wary of them.
1. “If I cheated on you, what would you do?”
Hypotheticals have a way of manifesting themselves in reality as well. That’s why you shouldn’t be taking hypothetical questions like these lightly. It means that your partner has engaged in thoughts about actually cheating on you.
2. “Why does it matter where I’m going?”
When your partner suddenly starts to become secretive about where they’re going and what they’re doing, it could be because they’re sneaking around behind your back. They may also get defensive and shift the blame when you ask questions, retorting with “Why do you care?” and “It’s none of your business where I am all the time!”
3. “I’m sorry I didn’t text you all day. I’ve been very busy.”
Your partner couldn’t spare at least just 30 seconds to tell you that they’re working on something? Sure. Sounds a little farfetched though.
4. “You’re so stupid.”
Insults are terrible in whatever scenario. But it’s especially terrible whenever they are made in the context of a romantic relationship. It’s never a good thing when you’re with a partner who just openly insults you to your face. It might mean that they are sick of you. And that contempt can lead them to infidelity. 9 Stupid Relationship Games You Shouldn’t Be Putting Up With.
5. “The office is making me travel a lot more nowadays.”
This is a classic excuse that a lot of cheaters give to their partners whenever they want to engage in infidelity. They cheat on their partners and they will use their work responsibilities as a perfect alibi for them to get time away without drawing suspicion.
6. “He probably had his reasons for cheating on her.”
If your partner is justifying the unfaithful behavior of another person, then you have reason to be scared. You might be with someone who sees cheating as acceptable in certain scenarios. And that should definitely make you feel uneasy. Here’s How You Can Tell If Your Boyfriend Is Cheating On You
7. “I feel like you don’t really appreciate me anymore.”
Be very careful when your partner expresses a lack of validation or appreciation in the relationship. That might be a sign that they’re actively seeking validation elsewhere – maybe even in the arms of another. What does it mean when she says, “I appreciate you”.
8. “Are you cheating on me?”
If your partner is asking you whether you’re cheating on them out of the blue, then that might be a bad sign. It might mean that they’re cheating on you and that they’re just assuming that you would be doing the same as well. How do I Forgive My Boyfriend for Cheating on Me?
9. “Why do you keep on asking where I’m going?”
Transparency shouldn’t typically be an issue for the healthiest and strongest relationships. That is why if your partner is acting shady and refuses to tell you certain details about plans that they might have, you have a reason for worry. How Can I Spice Up My Relationship With My Boyfriend?
10. “Why can’t you be more like _____?”
Any kind of comparison to another person is going to be bad and unhealthy for any relationship. However, if your partner alludes to a certain person in particular, then it’s possible that they’re the ones they are cheating on you with.
11. “I don’t want to give you my phone’s passcode!”
Everyone is entitled to their privacy. However, it’s really weird if you notice that your partner is overly protective of their communication devices. What do they have to hide from you anyway? Should you really be worried? 15 Ways Your Phone is damaging your Relationship
12. “Oh, is today our anniversary?”
IT’s definitely bad whenever your partner starts to forget the important dates in your relationship. It might be a sign that they’ve started checking out of your romantic situation and they’re not really interested in being with you anymore. 15 “Small Things” That Actually Mean A Lot To Her
This is the worst article I’ve ever seen you post! Seriously “how do you like my haircut” means I might be cheating!? That’s ridiculous! Sorry I didn’t text I was busy leads to the same suspicion!? How about sorry I had to get some gas!? Absolutely stupid and very wrong to even put that kind of garbage in someone’s head! Maybe pause and a common sense review before posting! MW
I disagree… My husband said a lot of those things to me and it turns out he was being unfaithful with me.
What if SHE.. cheats HE .???
Walk away just like I did
Be a real man and walk away
And if so get help
Finally a man who knows to walk away instead of cheating….ty Steven
This is written by an uneducated person. Most of these comments just lead to a real breakdown in any relationship. Just be 100% honest and leave those that cannot be honest or trusted. Trust your instincts, for they Are making you feel uneasy for a reason. When you feel something is wrong take a break from that person and see what happens. Be prepared to face the truth. Life will definitely not always go your way. You must face that reality and it can & will hurt Beyond Your Imagination.
Very true
Haha, Mark Wilbur you are right, it’s not always like that.There is some instances that beyond your control, and it doesn’t mean that cheating if you didn’t do it.But it is true if the person really have an affair they are like that always conscious about their appearance and very busy to the point even his/her cellphone with security code. Something strange about them if the person have affair with someone.They cannot control their feelings deeply madly inlove, it’s me and you against the world.
What if you change your boyfriend hair color and you see him taking selfie pictures?
My boyfriend said almost every one of those things to me and And she in fact was cheating on me and instill having favor affairs. So he still uses some of those phrases. It sucks tremendously, But now the Only reason I’m still here is to make his life miserable.
You have the right to be happy! I left one of the biggest cheaters this world will ever see and it was the best decision I ever made just move on and leave all that behind you
My husband cheated on me during my whole 18 years marriage because I was stupid not knowing! But the women he cheated with new he was married? So that being said what comes around goes around!!!!
Cheating is a choice period.
My ex cheated on me first 28 years. He knew he couldn’t find another woman as good as me.(so he wanted his cake , and eat it to) I collected evidence of his cheating and filed for divorce.
Well a lot of things that you mentioned is signs of a person if security if you ask me I don’t like nobody asking me details questions about where I’m going like I’m a child if I say I’m going out I’ll be making a little later that should be good enough if you need details then you need to check yourself because I don’t need details when somebody’s going anywhere as long as you respect the house i the sanctity of this household and me I don’t care where you are I’m not an insecure person and I don’t need to check on somebody’s having me of that hey I feel like that is intrusive it’s a bit much like somebody going out they going out don’t eat a bunch of questions about me I’m going out well sometimes you don’t even know where you going when you don’t know where you going to end up all you know that you going out for the day and to give somebody an itinerary like their your king queen mother father is insecure and unacceptable
This is Trina again some of my comments might be a little mixed up because I talk text because I have a couple tunnel but I hope that whoever reading this can get the gift of what I was trying to say
Trina, don’t write. 😅 you not only have tunnels, but u have whirlpool within you. Anyone who reads have the ‘gift’ of reading English. But God help them understand! 🔮 About questions asked, even if you maintain the sanctity of the house, when you are asked, you need to answer with clarity. Else you don’t know where you are going, as you said, then don’t go. Parents don’t have insecurity. They are worried about your security. Don’t be oversmart. Be humble and caring. Answer when asked.
Cheating is not an option. Revenge cheating only leads to Betrayal Olympics and it ends in tears. If you no longer want to be in the relationship, walk away. In fact in the relationship always leave room for DISAPPOINTMENT, just like you allow for DEPRECIATION STRAIGHT LINE METHOD in accounting.