If you happen to be married to someone who cheats on you or is disloyal towards you, then you know that you have a serious problem in your relationship and you desperately need to fix it. In a lot of cases, cheating and infidelity can actually spell doom for any kind of romantic relationship.
If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you and you actually confront them about it, it’s likely that they’re going to deny it. They might even try to turn things on you and accuse you of cheating. They might resort to branding you as a crazy person. They might say that you’re just being completely unreasonable and that your suspicions are unfounded. However, if you have some really damning evidence and proof, then it’s likely that your partner is going to start groveling and trying to make you understand why they did what they did.
You never want to be blindsided with the knowledge that your partner is actually cheating on you. You never want to be made a fool out of. That’s why you always need to be keeping an eye out for the red flags that your partner is actually engaged in some kind of romantic affair. A lot of these signs are fairly obvious and a lot of these are going to be subtle as well.
The key to protecting yourself is making sure that you are aware of the many red flags that may indicate some level of cheating and infidelity in the relationship. If your partner is exhibiting a lot of these signs, then it’s likely that they are cheating on you. When you confront them about it, you have to make sure that you know what it is you want to happen out of the confrontation.
1. Your spouse has been just exhibiting a bored aura. They just seem completely indifferent and uninvested in everything that is going on around them – their job, their career, their family life, their relationships, etc.
2. Your spouse seems to be seeking more thrills and exciting activities in life. This is due to the fact that they feel like the relationship (and their life as a whole) has reached some kind of stagnancy.
3. You notice that there is a substantial drop in the level of intimacy that you have in your relationship. You both don’t really try to open up to one another anymore. You don’t make an effort to get closer to each other. You stop being intimate in both the physical and emotional sense.
4. They don’t maintain eye-contact with you and it’s increasing by the day.
5. Your partner is exhibiting some serious self-esteem issues. You notice that they don’t really feel so self-assured and confident as they might have used to in the past.
6. Your spouse is no longer exhibiting any kind of jealousy or possessiveness towards you. They might have been territorial in the past. But nowadays, it’s as if the goings on in your life aren’t really all that important to them. You might be expendable in their eyes.
7. Your spouse has become really lazy when it comes to household chores and related duties. It’s as if they don’t really seem invested in the relationship anymore and that’s why they aren’t really putting in the effort at this point.
8. Your spouse seems to just be more negative lately. You don’t get the sense that they are jolly or thankful to be around you anymore.
9. Your spouse starts to criticize you on even the littlest and simplest things. You feel like they are starting to nitpick. They try to find even the little annoyances so that they have a reason to be irritated.
10. You can’t seem to get your spouse to open up to you. You don’t feel like they are willing to talk to you about the intimate aspects of their lives anymore. It’s as if they’re completely shutting you out.
11. Your spouse seems a lot more shady and secretive. It’s as if they’re really trying their best to hide something big from you.
12. Your spouse doesn’t seem interested in answering any of your questions at this point. They don’t really like giving you full details about the things you’re curious about.
13. Your spouse just starts lying to you – and you keep catching them at it. You know that they’re deliberately trying to cover something up.
My man and I have been together for 16 years and he is exhibiting just about every one of them. I cry all the time and I wonder why I was not good enough. I have asked him about it, he gets an attitude and goes outside. That’s where he spends all his time anymore. He gets up, goes to work, comes home, goes straight out to the shop. When he gets tired he will come in the house sit in his chair and goes to sleep. This is every night. All the while every day I sit at home by myself, talk to myself, and sometimes I answer myself. And that’s my day. I am heartbroken. If he wants someone else why is he still here? I am tired of trying to find the truth, but I don’t think that will ever happen.
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