Dangerous guys are all around you. And that’s why you always have to be careful when you choose to open your heart to someone. You have to remember that just because someone might seem really charming and amazing doesn’t mean that they are to be trusted. It can be very easy to fall into the trap of these seemingly incredibly guys while being blinded to the many toxic behaviors that they are exhibiting around you. You never want to find yourself in a toxic relationship because of the potential emotional trauma and scars that may befall you as a result of it. That’s why you always need to make an effort to keep yourself guarded. That’s why you always need to make sure that you are protecting yourself.
But how exactly do you do that? Well, you just need to arm yourself with the necessary information to defend yourself; to make sure that you are able to spot out any potential psychopaths before you get in deep with them. Remember that these kinds of guys are going to put in a lot of effort to make your life a living hell. This guy is going to blackmail and guilt you. He is going to destroy your confidence and sense of self-esteem. They will tell you that they love you just to keep you hooked. They will give you just enough to make sure that you don’t lose hope in them; and yet, they will break your heart over and over again with disappointment.
So what exactly can you do to protect yourself? Stay vigilant. If he says a few of these things, then it’s likely that he is a guy with a serious personality disorder. And if that’s the case, then you need to be able to walk away from that entire situation before it’s too late.
1. “If you walk away from me, I’m going to kill myself.”
You NEVER want to be in a relationship with this kind of man. It’s very important that you know that whatever your ex does after you break up is not your responsibility. So whatever destructive thing he threatens to put himself through should you break up with him shouldn’t be any of your concern. This is only a technique he uses to make sure that you are guilted into staying with him.
2. “Look at the man that you have turned me into.”
He blames you for all of the bad things that have happened in his life. This is a sign of a man who doesn’t think that he could do any wrong. He doesn’t want to be responsible for his own actions. He doesn’t want to be responsible for everything bad that has happened to him. He’s only looking to turn you into a scapegoat. He wants to place all of the guilt and blame on you.
3. “Stop pissing me off.”
This is a bad sign because when he says this, he’s essentially letting you know that he sees you as some kind of a nuisance. He is trying to make it seem like you are someone who is below him. He is putting himself as someone above you; as some kind of savior in his life. And he’s trying to make it seem like it’s such a burden to be tolerating your antics.
4. “If you truly love me, then you would do this for me.”
This “ultimatum” style of the request is always something that you just can’t turn a blind eye on. You can’t just ignore this. You should never have to prove your love to your man, and he shouldn’t be using your love as some kind of bargaining chip to get you to do something.
5. “My ex used to do it this way…”
If he makes it feel like he is somehow comparing you to an ex, then he obviously isn’t over that ex. And that’s some serious emotional baggage that you don’t want to be associating yourself with. You don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is going to still be hung up on an ex.
6. “Why don’t you want me to be happy?”
This is another common guilt-trip method he might use to get you to do something that you don’t want to do. He wants to make it seem like his personal happiness is hanging in the balance.
7. “You’re not going to make it without me.”
He really wants to convince you that you won’t make it in this life without him. He wants to isolate you from the rest of the world as much as possible. He wants you to believe that you aren’t going to be able to survive on your own, and that’s a way of him making sure that you’re just never going to leave him. He wants you to think that you always need to be clinging to him.