8 Common Characteristics of Manipulative People, According to Psychology
When it comes to dishonesty, lies, and downright emotional abuse, not too many people do it better than those who are inherently manipulative. Be very wary of these kinds of people. At first, they will come off as very trustworthy and genuine people, but once you peel away the veil of lies, the harsh truth is going to come out.
These are the kinds of people who are going to lure you into a deep relationship with them with all of their flowery words and kind gestures. But once they have you hooked, then their true selves come out, and you will be left questioning why you ever got into this relationship in the first place.
The fact of the matter is that manipulative people don’t really care about who you are as a person. They merely see you as a tool in the grand scheme of things. To these people, you only have a role to play in their lives, and your purpose is purely utilitarian.
They will use and abuse you in all the ways possible to get what they want out of you and the situation that you’re in. And the worst part is that they are so good at doing so, you might not even realize just how abusive they are being towards you. You will end up feeling very confused and disoriented with your life and you will feel like you’re losing control somehow. This is happening to you by design. You are meant to feel that way.
Another thing that these manipulative people are very good at is that they know how to play the victim in various situations. They have the power to guilt the people around them into feeling bad about something that they shouldn’t even be responsible for.
They know how to feed off of peoples’ insecurities and vulnerabilities. They are also very vicious and they have no regard for how bad they make the people around them feel. They are natural-born bullies and they live off of tormenting the lives of the people they encounter on a daily basis.
Given that you know all of this, it would be in your best interest to always avoid coming into contact with manipulative individuals. So how do you know when a person is manipulative by nature? Well, it can be hard knowing that they are very deceptive.
You just have to make sure that you stay vigilant and alert about the people you interact with every day. For some added help, read on through until the end of this list. Here are some common characteristics that are possessed by extremely manipulative people. You can save yourself a lot of heartache and unnecessary stress by avoiding these types of people.
1. They only like to do things their own way.
They are never receptive of any opposing narratives or perspectives. They like things to be done a certain way and they are incredibly intolerant of the ideas or opinions of others. They don’t respond well to contradictions or criticisms.
2. They do not understand nor respect the idea of boundaries in a relationship.
They don’t really value the importance of maintaining individuality in a relationship. They don’t respect boundaries that their partners may have. They are only looking for full ownership of the person that they are in a relationship with.
3. They are quick to pass blame unto others.
They are never known to just assume responsibility for their actions. Manipulative people always like to keep their hands clean in the eyes of the general public. That’s why they are always quick to pass the blame to other people. They never want to face the repercussions of their actions.
4. They will abuse any show of kindness or generosity from you.
They love interacting with genuinely kind and generous people because it’s easier for them to be their abusive and manipulative selves. They don’t like interacting with rebels who are naturally inclined to just stand up for themselves.
5. They are fond of talking about people behind their backs.
They always take a passive-aggressive approach to things. They never deal with someone they don’t like head on. They would much rather speak ill of a person whenever that person isn’t around.
6. They lack empathy and understanding for others.
They don’t care about when others are feeling very sad or emotional. They don’t care whenever people are experiencing difficulties in their lives. They are naturally selfish people who only care about themselves. They never make an effort to understand the situations of others.
7. They never back up their words with real actions.
It’s all talk for them. Manipulative people have a way with their words. But they rarely ever back up what they say with concrete actions.
8. They never do anything that is genuinely good for the sake of being good.
They always have a hidden agenda. There is always an ulterior motive. They would never do anything kind for the sake of being kind. They always have to get something in return.
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