Sometimes, some girls just need to take a hint. Get a clue. If he’s not into you, then don’t force the issue. There are few things in this life that are more pathetic than a girl who continually chases after a man who just isn’t going to be interested in her.
Yes, love is something that you need to fight for. But you can’t be so stubborn to the point that you just continually force yourself into an equation that you’re just not welcome in. You need to be able to pick your spots. You need to learn when it’s time to walk away. You need to know how to choose your battles. If you notice that he’s just not that into you, then you need to be able to accept that as reality and move on. You can’t force love after all.
1. He keeps a lot of secrets from you.
He doesn’t trust you. He doesn’t want you to see who he really is on the inside. He’s still hiding lots of things from you because he hasn’t that he’s ready to be vulnerable with you. He’s really not all that interested in you yet. He is still okay with lying to you because he doesn’t respect or trust you enough to always be open with you about anything.
2. He doesn’t make an effort to look good for you.
He doesn’t put an effort into looking good for you because he doesn’t care much about your opinion. He doesn’t care much about how you see him or what you think of him. He doesn’t care much about what you think in general because the truth is that he just isn’t into you at all. He would only really care about how you see him if he were genuinely interested in you.
He doesn’t act physically intimate with you.
He doesn’t get physically intimate with you because he’s not all that interested in getting close to you – whether physically or emotionally. It’s not that he’s afraid of physical affection. It’s just that he doesn’t necessarily see you as a viable target for all of his romantic energy. You don’t really give the impression that you’re a viable romantic interest at all.
He still checks out other girls when he’s with you.
He still checks out other girls because he’s not committing himself to you. He doesn’t really like you enough to be in a loyal monogamous relationship with you. He still wants to play the field and keep his options open. He’s not convinced that you’re the woman he is destined to just fall in love with. You’re just another fish in the sea from his perspective.
He doesn’t make an effort to get to know you better.
He doesn’t make an effort to get to know you better simply because he doesn’t want to. You’re not really a woman who sparks his interest or demands his attention. To him, you’re just another girl. And he feels like he loses nothing by refusing to get to know you on a deeper and more intimate basis.
He cancels on your dates a lot.
He cancels a lot on your dates – and that’s proof of him not really wanting to commit to you at all. And it’s also further proof that he has no problems with disappointing you because he doesn’t care much about your feelings and emotions. He doesn’t feel the need to cater to your standards and expectations.
He never adjusts his schedule for you.
When it comes to hanging out with one another, you are the one who constantly has to make the adjustments. He’s not the kind of guy who would cancel his plans just to make way for you. He only ever really hangs out with you when it’s convenient for him to do so. He doesn’t like you enough to actually make sacrifices and compromises for you when it comes to time.
He makes you the butt of the joke.
He willingly belittles and demeans you in front of other people just to get a laugh. It’s different when he has a great sense of humor and he’s constantly trying to cheer you up. But if he’s just making other people laugh at your expense, it’s likely he doesn’t care much about hurting your feelings. He doesn’t think all that much of you really.
He tells you that he’s not looking for anything serious.
This is practically the most common cop out for a lot of people these days whenever they want out of a potential relationship. They just immediately play the “fear of commitment” card. It’s not that he’s not looking for anything serious per se. It’s just that he doesn’t want to get serious with you in particular. He’s just trying to protect your feelings.
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