It is very easy to date someone but what isn’t all that easy is to date someone who is the right person for you and truly loves you. It has gotten harder than ever to find yourself someone who’s happiness lies in your joy. People who love you selflessly, who put you before themselves, who take comfort in your well being, who look forward to nothing more than seeing you achieving your goals and becoming successful are the only one that you should be considering as your girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse.
That is the kind of person who you should choose as your partner in life because they’re the only ones who you deserve to place your trust in. Don’t let anyone at first glance fool you. It takes a while to find out how someone is from the inside. But, there are undoubtedly some defining characteristics that you should try to look for in a person when you’re intending to get something going with them be it temporary or long-term and just like that, there are some major red flags to watch out in a person and steer clear from this path and this person.
1. You don’t have to be with someone who pressurizes you to be someone else:
There’s no reason for you to be in a relationship with anyone who doesn’t encourage you to be yourself. If this person does not behave like your biggest cheerleader, if he does not support you in all decisions, if they’re going to be your rock, and most significant support system throughout the good times and the bad ones too. Nothing should shake your partner’s belief in you. They should trust you fearlessly and blindly. You shouldn’t ever feel afraid or nervous to be yourself around them. Don’t ever settle for someone who makes you doubtful, scared or embarrassed to be yourself around them and around everyone else.
2. Be with someone who appreciates you:
Make sure you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t just love you but who wholeheartedly enjoys who you are. Be with someone who is always quick highlight your qualities; who thinks you are special, unique, intelligent, reliable, trustworthy, jolly, capable, talented, self-sufficient and independent.
Be with someone who doesn’t forget about your flaws and your mistakes:
You shouldn’t ever have to live with someone who takes pleasure in highlighting your flaws. The people who love you will never make your weaknesses and your shortcoming evident for everyone to notice.
3. Someone who cherishes who you are:
A person who loves you and treasures you for just the way you are is a real person. They should be perfectly happy with you instead of being someone who will get into a relationship with you, so they pick out nooks in you and find reasons to make changes in you later into the relationship. They need to be someone who nurtures your body, your mind, your heart and your soul.
4. Be with someone who builds your confidence:
When you’re feeling insecure about yourself, when you can’t find it in you to believe in yourself, your significant other should uplift your mood. Their words, their actions, and their presence should be your guiding light. They should become your reason to feel hopeful and confident. Your significant other should always know what to say to you and when to say it. They should always remind you of your right side. If you’re ever feeling shaky about applying to your dream job or your dream school, they should tell you of your capabilities, your strengths and your talents. They should you of their faith they have in you. Your significant other should be the one to pressure you and encourage you into giving the job/school application a try.
5. Be with someone who you look up to:
Don’t settle for someone who does not inspire you. Your better half should possess the capability to encourage you. Your spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend, should be the reason for you to believe in the good things in life. They should inspire you to become the best possible version of your life, to push you to really try your hardest at everything you set your mind to.
Be with someone who never takes advantage of your feelings for them. This person should never manipulate you, will never try to tie you up to his demands or his wishes, who will never guilt trip you into doing or into not doing anything. Be someone who will know your value from the very first day till the very last.
Be with someone who makes your heart leap will happiness, satisfaction, and pride. Don’t settle for someone if they don’t make you believe that you’ve found your soulmate.
