You might be so sick and tired of having to go through fruitless relationships that never end well. Perhaps you’re desperate and you don’t want to go back to being single ever again. Maybe you are getting older and you know that you really have to settle down with someone soon. You haven’t really had that much luck in love; and the love that you have now isn’t exactly magical – but it’s good enough. You know that being alone is devastating. It’s heartbreaking. You might not be built for solitude and isolation. You would rather be in a relationship that is just “okay” than be alone again.
Is that okay? Should you be ashamed of feeling that way? Are you taking the easy way out? Are you taking the fast route to love? Well, technically speaking, there’s nothing wrong with lowering your standards; especially if your standards are significantly high to begin with. However, where do you draw the line? How do you know that you’re just settling for something that is beneath you? How do you know if you’re just giving into your fears of being alone and so you’re clinging to a relationship that you really don’t want to be in?
The relationship that you’re in now – it isn’t exactly fireworks and candlelit dinners. But it’s not bad either. There are very little things that you have to complain about. But you just can’t seem to shake the feeling that there should be more to love; that you’re being shortchanged somehow. However, other than that, you don’t really have any valid reason to let the relationship go. And you’re getting scared. Maybe you will end up alone forever if you keep on trying to wait for “the one” to walk into your life. You start to think that maybe you should just settle after all. The guy that you’re with now might not exactly be prince charming; but he isn’t bad at all. What do you do?
Well, if you want the cold hard truth, then here it is: you’re doing yourself a disservice. You might think that you’re doing the right thing; the reasonable thing. But the truth is that you are just killing yourself slowly every day when you stay in a love that you know isn’t right for you. It’s foolish for you to believe that being in a relationship that is “good enough” is much better than being single. That’s never going to be the case. So what are the signs that you’re really in a relationship that is just “good enough”? Read on to find out.
1. He doesn’t make your heart race.
He doesn’t really make your heart skip a beat. The idea of being with him doesn’t really make you anxious or excited. He’s just like any other guy in your eyes.
2. You still think about what it would be like to date other men.
You are constantly fantasizing about the relationships that you’re missing out on. When you’re truly in love, you wouldn’t have to think about what it would be like to date other people.
3. The thought of sex doesn’t really excite you.
The sex isn’t magical. It’s purely physical. It doesn’t excite you. It doesn’t make you happy. You don’t exactly extract any pleasure from it.
4. You don’t look forward to spending time with him.
You should always want to spend as much time as possible with the person you’re in love with. And if you’re not excited at the thought of spending time with him; why is he even in your life at all?
5. You fight a lot.
Not to say that couples who are in love never fight. But it’s not normal for couples in love to be fighting and disagreeing about EVERYTHING. It’s especially not normal if you aren’t able to come to a compromise.
6. You become more tolerant of unacceptable behavior.
You start to “settle” for things that you typically wouldn’t be settling for. You become more tolerant of bad behavior.
7. You REALLY KNOW that you’re settling.
And when you know that you’re settling, then that’s the biggest sign of all. You’re just choosing to live with what’s already there.
You really shouldn’t be settling for a relationship. You really shouldn’t be settling for love. Love is the singe most beautiful thing that you could ever experience with another human being. And if the love that you’re in isn’t beautiful, then it isn’t really love. And you really shouldn’t be settling for anything less than love. It would be much better that you find love in yourself as a single person rather than settle for a relationship where love is difficult to come by. Don’t be so naïve to think that a fake relationship would give you the same kind of happiness that a real relationship would. There is nothing about love that you can fake or manufacture. It’s not something that you can replicate.