Honestly, it took me the longest time to realize that happiness isn’t something that you can find in material things. Heck, it might not even be something that you can find hobbies and activities. Sure, you can do certain things that bring you joy. Of course, you will be happy whenever you get to do the things that you are most passionate about.
You might be happy when you get to buy those pair of shoes that you’ve been aching for. However, that’s not the kind of happiness that I’m talking about right now. The type of joy that I’m referring to is the kind that lasts – the type that never leaves you.
That kind of happiness is only something that you can find in a shared love with another human being. And don’t confuse shared love with being in a relationship. Some so many people get into relationships and still end up feeling unhappy about themselves. No. The happiness that I’m referring to is the kind of happy that you feel when you’re with the right person; when you’re in the right relationship with the person that you’re genuinely supposed to be with for the rest of your life.
Working to be Happy
Of course, you can always do whatever you can to manufacture happiness in your own life. That’s practically everyone’s goal while on this earth. You try to do things that make you happy. For example, you work hard to make sure that you have enough money to sustain yourself. This sustenance will make it easier for you to be happy. You devote time to your favorite hobbies and interests because developing proficiency in these things makes you happy; you work for them.
Also, you can find happiness in relationships with friends and family. If you have certain people in your life who mean so much to you, then you can work hard at spending time with them to strengthen your bond. With your family, you know that you have people who are always going to have your back. In their way, they can bring happiness to your life as well. Hence, you make it a point still to nurture and nourish these relationships because you treasure them with all of your heart.
You should know that these relationships aren’t invalid; neither is the happiness that you can extract from them. However, it’s a different kind of happy when you are just lucky enough to fall in love with someone who loves you in return. It’s a different kind of content when you’re with someone who only invests so much of themselves into your bond and relationship.
Finding the Right Person
Not everyone is going to be lucky enough to be able to find the right people for them right away. In fact, for a lot of us, it’s going to require multiple tries, failures, and heartaches before we can fall into the kind of relationship that’s right for us. That’s okay.
The only thing that you need to know for sure is that love is always going to be worth it. Once you fall in love for real, it will be as if all of your pain, heartache, and disappointment are going to disappear without a trace.
And the reason that all of the negativity seems to dissipate from your life is because of the genuine happiness that you feel when you’re with the right person. Naturally, when you fall in love with the right partner, it’s going to be unlike anything you’ve ever experienced before.
You get to see the rest of your life when you look into your partner’s life. You taste your future whenever you kiss. It’s this kind of happiness that you always want, and you would never have to work for. It’s all a matter of just being able to find the right person to help you be happy.
Happiness In Another Person
They say that you should never rely on another person to be happy. There is a lot of truth to that statement. Of course, you should always be pursuing happiness in your own life that you can generate on your own. However, that doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with actually being able to find happiness in another person.
See, that’s the joy of being in love. That’s the best part about being in a relationship with someone. It’s discovering that you don’t always have to do things on your own. Being with someone who loves you can be liberating and empowering. So, I hope that you someday find that person who you can find your happiness in. Indeed, the joy that is shared is the best kind of pleasure there is.
