Weddings are important events, we understand the amount of effort and planning they require. It’s safe to say a lot of stress is involved during the planning process and even on the wedding day – but it’s also important to remember that a wedding is the day of a happy union and it shouldn’t hurt anyone’s feelings or make them feel any less about themselves.
Such is the case of today’s story where a woman felt like she needed to buy more dresses before going to weddings – because of peer pressure.
The Story
A Reddit user who has deleted her account shared her troubling story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) to ask the community whether she’s right or wrong. She wrote:
“I live in Canada now with my husband but went to grade school in the states. So all my clothes are for cold weather only and I only have a small amount of dresses, skirts, warm weather attire.”
“Most of my friends are in the states (California) and when I’m there I rotate 3 dresses (a black one, blue one and one for the holidays) and a couple of shorts. So I’ve worn the same blue dress for all my friend’s weddings and in the latest one I got an invite to my friend’s wedding with the message, ‘don’t you dare wear that same blue dress’.”
“I’ve been teased by my friends about wearing the same thing. I also think the culture in California is to have a large wardrobe since a I’ve never seen my friends wear the same thing twice (not that I’m that observant) while I only have a small wardrobe and most of my clothes are for function and work (I’m a civil engineer) rather than parties since I only go out a few times a year and it’s too cold for dresses normally.”
“AITA for wearing the same dress to all my friend’s wedding and do I have to buy a new dress for my friend’s wedding when she specifically said I can’t wear the same one? It’s not in bad shape it’s only been worn a dozen times.”
The Responses
Reddit’s community completely supported this woman. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best responses:
Incognitoacon said:
“NTA RSVP no. And write ‘I don’t have the budget for a dress and a gift. You choose and contact me.'”
Whitestaunton rightfully commented:
“NTA”
“Go back and ask her if she expect the men to all wear new Tuxedo’s or suits.”
“Actually on a broader note. This wedding is going to be expensive for you. You will have to fly to California arrange accommodation it’s pretty cheeky entitled to ask someone who is already spending a ton of money to be there on your big day for you to go out and buy something specific for your wedding.”
“Scrub asking her about the men and their tuxedos send her pictures of your outfits including work and ask her to pick one maybe put the airline tickets in shot…see if she is brave enough to demand you go shopping. If you do have to I would get a woman’s tux and wear it every single time.”
jaccajjaccaj supported with some decent advice:
“NTA wear what you want. Maybe try to change it up with a colourful scarf or something, if you want, but you’re not required to, and you certainly don’t have to get a new dress.”
“But I’m also in Canada, and I have a bunch of dresses (winter ones, summer ones, spring or fall ones). You don’t have dresses because you don’t want or need them, which is fine, not because of where you live.”
Accomplished_Boat912 shared a legendary lesson:
“NTA; my nan brought a dress for my aunts wedding over 10 years ago & worn it to multiple weddings since. Her reason is ‘I paid over £100 quid for this dress, I’m getting my moneys worth'”
This post has over 2000 comments at the time of writing this article, you can read them on Reddit here.
Our Take
Most definitely NTA. We don’t think this woman should be made to feel this way because of something so superficial as clothes. Wear whatever you want as long as you’re happy!
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this woman’s story? Talk to us in the comments below.
Source: Reddit
NTA.