Bad habits destroy relationships, slowly but surely.
Habits breed character, and you should never forget that. That’s why if you give a damn about the character and environment of your relationship, you have to always make sure that you are practicing good habits. Aside from that, you should also make it a point to refrain from practicing any bad habits that may prove to be detrimental to your relationship. When left unchecked, your habits may end up creating a toxic and downright discouraging environment for you to be in as a couple. You don’t want to be dooming your relationship with your passivity and complacency. You always want to make sure that you are policing yourself in the relationship.
So if you ever find yourself committing a few of these relationship sins on a habitual basis, it’s imperative that you make the necessary adjustments. You can’t always be acting aloof or indifferent when it comes to the affairs of your relationship. You have to be able to make the proper corrections whenever you do something wrong. So if you’re guilty of a lot of the items that are listed on here, make sure that you change your ways so as to save your relationship.
1. You interrupt one another whenever you’re talking or arguing.
Whenever you do this to one another, it just goes to show that you really aren’t paying any attention to each other. You are more interested in saying whatever it is you have to say than in actually hearing your partner out. You should always make it a point to be receptive of whatever your partner has to say.
2. You play the eye for an eye kind of game with each other.
Just because your partner wrongs you in a particular way doesn’t mean that you get a free pass to do that same wrong to your partner. Two wrongs never make a right and you have to understand that. When you feel that your partner has wronged you, don’t retaliate. Instead, learn to talk things out and be honest with each other.
3. You don’t take the time to show your appreciation for one another.
Sometimes, it’s not the things that you say, but the things that are left unsaid which are most detrimental to a relationship. Make it a point to always consistently show your partner just how appreciative you are of their presence or their gestures of kindness. It may seem like a small thing, but it really matters in a relationship.
4. You jump to conclusions without proper verification or analysis.
Stop playing the act of mind-reader. If you want to know what your partner is thinking or feeling at any particular moment, go ahead and ask. Don’t jump to any illogical conclusions or unfounded speculations. Communication is very important in a relationship and you should always be willing to talk things out with one another.
5. You refuse to assume responsibility for your faults or shortcomings.
You shouldn’t be playing the blame game with each other. That is no way to promote the love and affection in a relationship. Whenever you screw up, make sure that you own up to it. Don’t go blaming your partner for all your personal shortcomings and flaws. Don’t deflect.
6. You act too selfishly a lot of the time.
Learn to be a little more thoughtful and mindful when it comes to your relationship. Be careful with your choice of words and actions. Think about the potential impact that your words or actions can have on your partner and always be considerate. Remember that you are still dealing with a human being who is prone to getting hurt.
7. You don’t make an effort to spend quality time with one another.
Quality time is very much different from just spending time with each other. Sure, you could both be physically present in the room but that doesn’t mean that you’re investing time with one another. Whenever you spend quality time together, you have to be engaging with one another in an emotional capacity.
8. You criticize each other with the purpose of hurting.
There should always be room for honest criticism in a healthy relationship. But when that criticism is done out of spite or hate, then that’s when it becomes a problem. You shouldn’t be criticizing your partner hoping that you can bring them down with your words. Your criticism should always be borne out of genuine concern and good faith.
9. You grow complacent in your relationship with one another.
You can never afford to grow complacent in your relationship. You can’t afford to take one another for granted because that is only the first step to drifting apart from one another.
10. You let external devices distract you from paying attention to one another.
Learn to block out all of the noise and just focus on each other every so often. Turn of all the cellphones, shut down all of the computers. Be in each other’s presence and just learn to appreciate one another’s company.
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