I had an abusive father and I agree with this completely!
I have a greatdad. He is guilty of carrying all the typical nuances the modern father wouldhave. He exudes a very rough, rugged, and domineering exterior. But he has theheart of gold. He has the warmest smile in the world. He has a twinkle in hiseye whenever he looks at me and I know that he doesn’t look at any other personin the world in the same way. Growing up, my dad was the man of my life.
That is why nowthat I’m old enough to look for a man for myself, my dad will always serve asthe benchmark. The bar is incredibly high for the men I choose to let into mylife because of my dad. He always made sure that I was always cared for. Henever hurt me. He was there to push me when I needed it. He held my hand when Iwas scared. He knew just when I needed someone to make me laugh. I need a manwho can do all those things and more.
My father is thevery definition of a great man. He possess all the qualities of what I like forin the men that I date. Here are some of those qualities.
1. A great man makes is girl feel like she’s home.
It doesn’tmatter where we are in the world. My man should always manage to make me feellike we’re home. He should always have the power to make me feel safe andcomfortable. He should never put me in situations of unrest or danger. Heshould treat me like a delicate flower who needs to be protected and cared for.
2. A great man never goes out looking for fights.
A great manisn’t insecure about his manhood. He doesn’t feel the need for validation fromothers. He doesn’t try to impress other people by going out and proving hisdominance over inferiors. A great man doesn’t go around looking for unnecessaryconflict. He is always an active pacifist and kindhearted person.
3. A great man always knows how to treat a woman.
A great mannever demeans his woman. He should always work hard to be a gentleman. He hasto practice all the rules of chivalry without fail. He should also respect meenough to allow me the space to breathe. He should respect my boundaries and heshould never underestimate my capabilities as a person.
4. A great man knows the importance of family.
My man shouldalways be family-oriented. He knows and understands just how important familyis in life. He would never be the kind of person to turn his back on family. Heshould make an effort to have my family accept him into our circle. He shouldalso not be afraid of introducing me to his family.
5. A great man doesn’t shy away from his emotions.
A real mandoesn’t sweep his emotions under a rug. Whenever he is faced with an emotionalsituation, he knows how to tackle it head on. He can confront his emotionsconstructively and he doesn’t need to hide behind a faГ§ade of lies.
6. A great man isn’t afraid to make apologies.
When I’m goingto date a man, he has to be humble enough to acknowledge his mistakes wheneverhe does wrong. He shouldn’t be so proud as to never apologize for his faults.He should have the kind of self-awareness that enables him to build on hisweaknesses.
7. A great man has incredible mental fortitude.
The man that I’mgoing to date is not weak in the head. He is the man who is never fazed byadversity or trials. He goes through difficulties in life with utmost grace andclass. He always carries himself with poise and he never crumbles under thepressure. He is persistent, hardworking, and he always perseveres.
8. A great man doesn’t back down from challenges.
He doesn’t gohiding under a rock whenever things get hard. If I’m going to date a man, he isgoing to have to be strong like me. He has to be willing to stand up wheneverthe difficulties come our way. He can’t be the kind of guy who just runs awayfrom his problems.
9. A great man is a giver.
The man that I’mgoing to date should have the heart of a child. He should always be loving andkind. He should be generous and well-mannered. He should always have otherpeople in mind and he should never be selfish. The man that I’m going to dateis one who would never leave other people behind.
10. A great man doesn’t step on other people to get ahead.
Whenever Ichoose to date a man, he has to be one who doesn’t take shortcuts. He has to beprincipled in his words and his actions. He should never be looking to overtakeother people for his own benefit. He should be a trailblazer who forges his ownpath without having to step on other people to succeed.
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