It’s weird how people are just naturally able to separate people the moment that they find themselves in a relationship. It’s like Stephanie the single lady is a completely different person from Stephanie, the girl who Mike is dating. What changed exactly?
It’s weird how people are just naturally able to separate people the moment that they find themselves in a relationship. It’s like Stephanie the single lady is a completely different person from Stephanie, the girl who Mike is dating. What changed exactly? Stephanie didn’t become a whole new personal entity just because she started dating Mike, did she? No. And you should feel bad for making it seem like that’s the case. A lot of people will change the way they treat women the moment that they get into relationships.
They talk to them weirdly, they act different around them, and the demeanor is just not the same. Frankly, it can get really annoying for all the Stephanies of the world.В She’s still the same girl! She just happens to be in a relationship now. If you’re still socially inept and need some tips on how to deal with your lady friend who just happens to now be in a relationship, then please read this article in its entirety.
Here are 5 things that you should never say to a girl in a relationship.
1. So when do you guys plan to get hitched?
Excuse me. Why are you jumping to conclusions? Just because a girl gets into a relationship with a guy doesn’t mean she automatically wants to marry him; or that she even wants to get married at all. Less and less couples are getting married nowadays because it’s just more practical for some of them.
You shouldn’t automatically assume a person’s entire life plans just because she happens to be dating a guy. You’re setting unreasonable expectations for a life that isn’t even your own. If she ever has plans of getting married, she’ll let you know. Until then, don’t bring it up But if you really can’t help it, at least ask her nicely when you do.В – Continue reading on the next page
2. You’re probably set for life because of him, huh?
Oh no you didn’t! Because of him? No, dude. She was set for life way before she started dating. She’s a strong and independent woman who can make it on her own. She doesn’t need a guy to baby her and care for her for the rest of her life. She’s perfectly capable of finding her own way in life.
She can handle her struggles and she can overcome her own problems without having to be dependent on a man. Yes, she likes to have her boyfriend around to help her from time to time. But that doesn’t mean she wouldn’t be doing fine if he weren’t there. Shame on you for assuming such. It’s 2017 and women are stronger now than they have ever been!
3. So now that you’ve finally gotten a boyfriend
So now that she’s finally got a boyfriend what? Do you expect her to be an entirely new person? She was perfectly fine even before she got into a relationship. Did you expect that just because a boy came along, that she just decided to change her life entirely? She’s still the same person. Granted she’s dating now, and she’s probably making some little changes here and there, but that shouldn’t mean that you get to expect she’s going to act any different around you.
She has her own mind and lives her own life regardless if she’s dating or not. The single person that she was before is still the same person that she is now even if she has a boyfriend. You don’t always have to expect things to be different.В – Continue reading on the next page
4. You just don’t get it. You’re no longer single.
She gets it. She wasn’t born with a boyfriend attached to her limbs. She has experienced the single life and she does empathize with whatever problems or experiences you’re going through as a single person. Don’t automatically assume that she’s going to be snobby and mean just because she’s no longer part of the lonely hearts club.
She’s still perfectly capable of understanding your troubles as a single woman. In fact, she’s probably in good position to give you advice on how to land a boyfriend too. Don’t shun her just because you have a personal vendetta against people who happened to find love before you did.
5. You get it, right? You have a boyfriend.
In relation to the previous item on this list, just because she’s in a relationship doesn’t mean you get to assume that she also experiences what you experience in your relationship. All relationships are different and unique in their own ways. Each relationship carries with it particular defining qualities that make them special.
Just because she’s dating now doesn’t mean she’s automatically going to know what you’re talking about when you bring up relationship topics. It’s irritating when you automatically assume that she would. Don’t be presumptive and know that not everyone is always going to think like you.
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