This is dedicated to every single girl out there who has ever had her heart broken, wounded, and stomped on by a toxic man in her life. You might be someone whose hopes and dreams might have been totally destroyed by a toxic man. You might be someone who has completely diminished all hopes of love just because you have been torn apart by a ruthless guy.
This is for you. I sincerely hope that the words that I write here today will help you heal from all the suffering that you’re experiencing in your life. I hope that this piece of honesty is going to help you mend the brokenness of your heart and the severity of your wounds. I hope that you can trust me because… I was once where you are right now. I have also had my heart broken by the person I loved most in the world – and it was truly devastating.
I have already experienced everything that you’re going through at the moment. I gave the entirety of my heart to someone who never opened his up to me. I loved this one guy with every fiber of my being even when he never showed the willingness to do the same with me. He was definitely a guy who wasn’t deserving of everything that I gave him. He wasn’t a guy who was worthy of my trust. He was a guy who did nothing to earn my love. He was a guy who clearly didn’t deserve to be with me.
And it took me the longest time to realize that he was the wrong one for me. But I’m over it. I’ve healed. I’ve moved on from him and he no longer affects my life in a negative way anymore. That’s why I hope that you can trust me. I can empathize with you. I can relate to you. I know everything that you’re going through because I’ve had the same exact experience.
I hope that you can take comfort in the fact that you are not alone in your struggles. You aren’t the first girl in the world to experience this and you certainly aren’t going to be the last either. I am now in a position wherein I truly believe in myself again. I genuinely believe that I’m still worthy of love even if it isn’t going to be with the man who broke my heart. And it is my sincere hope that you eventually get to the point wherein you feel the same way too.
Hopefully, you can see myself in my experience – and you can also trust that you will eventually heal in the same way that I did as well.
I was once in a relationship with a guy who I thought I knew pretty well. But it turned out that I had no idea who he was after all. When I had just started dating him, he was the sweetest, most romantic, and most compassionate guy out there. He was always so patient and understanding with me. He always made me feel like I was enough and that my life couldn’t get any better.
However, it was only soon after that wherein I realized that he wasn’t who I believed him to be. Once he knew that he had me hooked, he started to show off his true colors. Once he knew that he had me wrapped around his finger, he decided to reveal his true self to me. He showed me that his intentions weren’t as noble as I may have been led to believe. He showed to me that his character wasn’t as pure as I may have initially thought. He showed me who he really was on the inside. And he did so fearlessly. He did so unforgivingly. It turns out that I was dating a man who was abusive, manipulative, cruel, sadistic, and absolutely heartless.
I was in a relationship with a man who took advantage of the love and kindness that I had given him. I can’t even keep track of how many times I had to make excuses for his terrible behavior. I can’t count how many times I have had to cry myself to sleep every night because of the way that he treated me. I was too blinded by my love for him to see just how selfish and toxic he was as a human being.
He was definitely a big mistake – but I don’t regret being with him. Why? He taught me to be the woman I am today. It’s because of him that I now know to never take shit from anyone I’m in a relationship with. I am a lot stronger now because I dated him. And hopefully, you are going to find yourself in a place of strength as well. When it’s all said and done, you should always be willing to fight for the love that you deem yourself worthy of.