A woman went viral after revealing that she had to end her relationship of five years because her partner wanted kids and she didn’t.
TikTok user @jackiedives often share videos with her 60.9K followers on the platform and shares bits and snippets of her life without children. She is quite popular on the platform and regularly updates her audience about having zero regrets for not having kids.
In a now-viral video, Dives, a 39-year-old photographer, artist, and solo traveler, explained her reasons for posting videos about her life without children and said she often receives hate from other people, especially women who claim she will regret her decision one day.
In a stitch to fellow TikToker @the_mrs_sallee’s video, Jackie, known for “Day in the Life” without kids video series, shared her reasons behind her content and said people need to leave women alone and stop asking questions like when are they going to have children.
“I often get sh-t on TikTok for saying ‘This is how a child-free person does XYZ,’ or ‘This is a day in the life of a child-free person,’” she said in her TikTok stitch. “People are like, ‘Why do you need to put in there that you’re child-free? What difference does it make?’”
“The reason I do that is because I want women like the person who I’m stitching (Maelen) to see what a life without children can look like. I’m 39, and I’m child-free, and my experience of being child-free [started] when my partner decided that he wanted to have children. We’d been together for five years, and he actually left our relationship. So I had to decide [and be] very sure that I was willing to let my partner go in exchange for living a child-free life.”
Dives added that when she parted ways with her partner, whom she loved a lot, many people, including her friends and family members, said it was crazy of her to let him go and wanted to remain child-free.
“I really loved my partner a lot, and a lot of people were telling me that it was crazy to let him go and not just have a baby with him. But I knew in my heart and in my gut that I didn’t want to be a parent,” she explained.
“After we separated, it was really hard for me to visualize what my life would look like. I could see what my life would look like if he and I had stayed together. I would be with him, and we’d have a house, a baby, a family, great in-laws, and a white picket fence, the whole thing.”
The photojournalist said she started posting videos about how her life and what it looks like without kids because she wanted to show other women the reality and make people realize that if someone doesn’t want to have children, it’s an entirely normal thing and they shouldn’t judge and jump to conclusions and call people crazy for their life decisions.
“But because we are never shown examples in media or pop culture about what it looks like to be a woman who doesn’t have children, I had no idea what my life would look like if I didn’t go down the path that everyone expected me to go down. It felt really lonely and strange, and I had to go seek out other women who had also made that choice.”
“So that’s why I always say in my videos, ‘This is what a day in the life of a child-free artist looks like,’ because I want women who don’t want to have kids to have an example of what your life can look like,” she concluded.
Over 3.5 million people on TikTok have viewed Jackie’s video, and it received 11,000 comments from people, many of whom agreed with her and said everyone has the right to make decisions about their lives without worrying about other people’s judgments and opinions.
“I’m so proud of you. I stayed, and I love my family, but in my heart I know I’m not living the life my spirit was meant for. Fly for me, too,” one wrote.
“Not just ‘have a baby with him’ as though it’s what color to paint the walls or what car to buy. Good for you for understanding the gravity,” a second said.
“Having a child is too important to disagree about. You did the right thing,” a third added.
“I am a happy mom of 2 and I appreciate you doing this. Women need to see more than one version of womanhood,” said another.
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