What is intimacy?
Well, it’s not easy to define. But it’s definitely so much more than just the two of you getting naked and climbing into bed with one another. It’s so much more than the two of you just finding a room to yourselves and going to town on each other. It’s more than just you kissing your partner in every part of their body.
It’s more than just the two of you have some kind of physical chemistry with each other. Intimacy is a lot more than the two of you getting hot and sweaty in your relationship. It’s insulting for anyone to think that this is what intimacy is all about.
Intimacy is so much more than just you not wanting to take your hands off of your partner every time you see them. It’s so much more about the two of you sneaking away from a crowd to find a place to make out. It’s so much more than the two of you just having hot sex every single night.
Intimacy also means the two of you just taking the time to cuddle in bed and feel the warmth of each other’s bodies. Intimacy also means holding each other’s hands as you’re walking down the street together. Intimacy also means holding on to your partner for a few extra seconds when you’re locked in an embrace. Intimacy is also light kisses on the cheeks and surprise hugs from behind.
Intimacy means you being able to show your affection for your partner in ways that transcend the physical touch. Intimacy means you being able to make your partner feel your love for them with the mere touch of your fingers. Intimacy means you being able to lock eyes with one another even when you’re separated by a sea of people in a crowded room.
Intimacy is the two of you just lounging on the couch all weekend with nothing “interesting” or “exciting” planned and still being okay with it. Intimacy is the two of you just being able to enjoy each other’s company regardless of what you’re doing or where you’re going.
Intimacy means feeling completely comfortable with another human being. It means being okay with seeing this person even when you’re not in your best clothes. Intimacy means still feeling beautiful even when you don’t have your hair done just because your partner looks at you a certain way.
Intimacy means the two of you baring your souls to one another in a way that you don’t with other people. Intimacy means you allowing your partner to see sides of you that you typically keep tucked away from the rest of the world. Intimacy means being okay with just being vulnerable with your partner because you trust them to always take care of you and make sure that you’re safe and secure.
Intimacy is not something that is just built overnight. It’s not something that you are able to perfect in a single day. Intimacy, much like love, is something that you need to build and strengthen over time. It’s the many days, weeks, months, years, and decades that you spend trying to strengthen the love that you share with your partner.
Intimacy isn’t just something that you feel when the two of you are canoodling underneath the sheets. It’s something that is always supposed to come to you naturally and organically. Intimacy is something that you have to work for and work at. It’s something that you really need to be putting a lot of time and effort into.
Intimacy is not just a physical act, but a mental and emotional one as well. Being intimate with someone means allowing that person to pick your mind however they want.
It means you speaking freely about what’s in your heart. Being intimate means feeling comfortable with just getting something off your chest without fear of being judged. Intimacy is you being able to tell your partner anything without being afraid of them eventually using your words against.
Real intimacy is you being able to approach your partner with a topic that the two of you might be uncomfortable talking about. Intimacy means you and your partner having difficult conversations with one another because you know that it’s necessary for bridging the two of you closer together.
Merely sleeping together is never going to be enough in building the level of intimacy in your relationship. Yes, you can know the various sex positions that would bring a lot of joy and pleasure to your partner. But that’s not all that intimacy is about. And you must continually make an effort to improve your level of intimacy in the relationship.
You must make sure that you don’t take each other for granted. Intimacy is closeness. Closeness is love. Love is strength.