Attractiveness is a unique concept – it’s different for everyone. Today’s Reddit question was posted in the AskReddit subreddit; a guy asked all of the men from the Reddit community to give their take on what they find unattractive while their ladies think it’s attractive.
A guy with the username AsianHawke received over 16k responses to his question; here are 33 of the top answers from the men of Reddit.
The Answers:
1. Blujay12 talks about misdirection:
“Basically any intentional misdirection.
“Like playing games, hard to get, only hinting towards feelings, never saying anything, etc.
Like I don’t think I’ve ever looked at someone and went “oh, they can’t communicate at all, god I wanna date them”.”
2. AL3XD doesn’t like backbiting:
“Putting other girls down. Gross.”
3. Rakanadyo talks about signals:
“Intentionally difficult-to-read signals of interest.
“I don’t consider myself dumb at all, but I’m no genius either. If it feels like I’m trying to decode hieroglyphs with you, I’m probably gonna give up.”
4. halfageplus7 was ghosted:
“I chased someone for months, we did manage a hot date or two and then I was ghosted. I tried and tried, but nothing. I later got married and when we did finally catch up she told me “I was always here” like I gave up.
“The mind. It boggles.”
5. tr3mbau doesn’t like self-deprecation:
“Calling yourself a crazy b*tch”
6. bigben932 speaks for the rest of us:
“Playing hard to get and then asking why you aren’t interested in them. Just f***ing insane.”
7. nnahnhoj dislikes comparisons:
“Don’t compare us to an ex…”
8. lcl82 talks about drama:
“Being ultra-dramatic up and down. To be fair I think this works when young women do it with young guys, it draws them in. But as guys emotionally mature and figure out what they want out of life it becomes more of a red flag than a “manic pixie dream girl” situation.
“The female equivalent of the “bad boy.”
9. mjgibson92 drops a hint:
“Hints. We’re not that smart. Just tell us.”
10. Biggestnerdhere dislikes when women fake interests:
“Don’t fake interest in my interests. If you don’t like football or video games just say so.”
11. 37corecneps loves it natural:
“The Kardashian look. Pumped up lips and a disproportionately large butt are a huge turnoff for me. It’s just not natural.”
12. LigmaMelon talks about controlling women:
“Girls being toxicly controlling and overbearing. like a girl not letting her bf have any time to himself and always have to know what he’s doing. And then when you try to see what she’s doing she blows up in your face. Why do girls think that makes them look cute?”
13. hungry_lobster has a specific problem:
“Those lashes that cause typhoons when they blink.”
14. sergius64 doesn’t like entitlement:
“Acting entitled with service staff.”
15. PhreedomPhighter doesn’t like fake surprises:
“That fake surprise. When it seems like they’re completely astonished to see you. You could just say “Hi!” instead of “What are you doing in my house?!””
16. igenus44 has one simple thing to mention:
“Duck face.”
17. a1565 loves food:
“Barely eating anything when we go out for food when I know they want more.”
18. ShortArms_DeepPocket loves Jazz:
“I hate it when girls don’t like Jazz”
19. Spam-Monkey has a nail preference:
“Long Nails. Fake nails in particular.”
20. PunchBeard mentioned other guys:
“Saying “I mostly hang out with guys”.
“What you think you’re saying: “I’m not like other girls. I hate drama and I like all the same things you do”.”
What we hear: “There’s a ton of competition for my attention”.”
21. Atorpidguy also loves natural:
“Using Instagram filters instead of showing their natural face”
22. MyDogAppa has a spooning issue:
“Always wanting to be little spoon. I have nothing against being big spoon. I just want the ladies to know that men do want to be little spoon sometimes and it’s a major turnoff to reject me when I ask to be little spoon or to even cuddle without spooning.”
23. Wet-Bees talks about insecurities:
“Blaming insecurities to us. “I am like this because of you”. No you were always like that. We are just little too much into you to realize you had insecurities.”
24. Flingsquidz talks about women being insecure of other women:
“Being insecure about other women. My girlfriend told me to leave her and go run off this girl in my car club that I got to take a picture of me in front of my car. She’s convinced every female friend I have is getting in my pants, even the ones with boyfriends who are friends of mine”
25. TheWoildIsYaErster wants women to know they’re pretty:
“Your cousin/friend/random girl whose Instagram you just showed me while asking “ughh, why is she prettier than me?”
“Like what the heck is that question?”
26. erikciaramella talks about lip fillers:
“Lip fillers. No man has ever said “man, she’d be so hot if her lips were more full.””
27. meh84f loves communication:
“Not being straightforward. One of the most attractive things a woman can do is just tell me what she wants, how she feels, what she likes, etc. it shows a level of maturity that is a huge turn on, and also a huge indicator that a long term relationship might actually work.”
“Communication is the key.”
28. Captn_Ghostmaker speaks about a quote:
“If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”
“If you say this then you’re looking for validation at being a terrible person. It doesn’t make you seem strong or special. It makes you sound like you’re entitled and nobody else is worth your respect.”
29. mooseman2234 doesn’t like secrets:
“Being overly secretive for no reason – it just breeds distrust.”
“I don’t care where you go, who you go with, what the hell you are looking at on your phone, etc, etc to control you, I will ask about it all because I find you interesting”
30. almightywhacko speaks about being high maintenance:
“Being “high maintainance.”
“If you need a specific expensive perfume, a new expensive outfit, a salon trip and 2 hours just to get ready to hang casually with friends, you’re probably more trouble than you’re worth.”
“It is one thing if you’re going to a wedding or some other fancy event. However if it takes you hours to look presentable at a casual event, you have to wonder how bad you’re starting from.”
31. Element_905 enjoys easier scents:
“Over powering perfume. If I can smell you before I see you, tone it down a bit would ya.”
“Also leopard print. shutters”
32. PoofBam speaks about eyebrows:
“Pencil-thin eyebrows. Or drawn-on eyebrows.”
“Ladies, just leave your eyebrows as they are. I mean, I understand a little grooming if you have a freakish monobrow or something but I bet you don’t know how good your natural eyebrows look.”
33. Lastly, Yusi-D-Jordan speaks one word:
“Jealousy”
This question has over 16k answers, you can read them all on Reddit here.
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Source: Reddit – Fellas, what’s not as attractive or sexy as women think it is?
