Just let yourself be human and allow yourself to feel all of the pain and suffering that comes your way.
So you just got broken up with. That’s a tough enough cross to have to bear as is. But to add insult to injury, you’re still helplessly in love with the guy who broke up with you. What ever will you do? How are you going to move on from this emotionally compromising situation that you have found yourself in? How are you going to survive? You have found yourself at the bottom of a dark pit and you want to find your way out of there but you need help in doing so.
Sure, perhaps you could see the breakup coming. Maybe you saw some red flags that were present in the relationship that led you to believe that things weren’t going so well. But still, nothing could ever prepare you for the pain and torment that you’re feeling now. You never could have expected just how hard this breakup would hit you and so now you’re feeling completely helpless and disoriented. There’s nothing you can do about the situation and so you’re just left there to cope with whatever sadness you’re forced to deal with.
So you find yourself listening to those sad Bon Iver songs on repeat wishing that things aren’t the way that they are. You never wanted things to turn out this way and you always tried your best to make things work, but life still didn’t turn out in your favor. But you have to understand that at this moment is when you have to be at your strongest. It’s either you can just choose to let yourself fall all the way to your demise or you can make the conscious choice to pull the cord and release the parachute to guide you towards safety.
Remember that life goes on and that eventually, you are going to turn out alright. You are going to get through this no matter how difficult things may seem. You are always stronger than you know. You are bigger than your body gives you credit for. Know that the path to rehabilitation and stability is fairly simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. So you don’t have to feel completely lost anymore. Here are a few things that you could do to help get yourself back to where you need to be in life.
1. Just let yourself be human and allow yourself to feel all of the pain and suffering that comes your way.
Pain and suffering are essential nonnegotiable aspects of your life and you have to learn to accept them as they come. Stop trying to blunt all of the pain. Stop trying to ignore all of your ill feelings and negative emotions. Face them head on. That’s the best thing you can do to fast forward the healing process. In order for you to get better again, you have to know what it’s like to hit rock bottom. If you want to get back to the top, you need a place to start. That’s why you should never try to distract yourself from all of the pain that you’re feeling at the moment. Accept it all as it comes, and learn to deal with it in a constructive manner.
2. Start making an effort to see the good out of a bad situation.
Sometimes, all it takes is a little shift in perspective to drastically alter a person’s mood. Yes, the situation is unfortunate. You have lost the love of your life and it is unlikely that you are ever going to get him back. While there are plenty of reasons to be sad and negative about where you are at the moment, there are also some things that are worth being happy about. Don’t forget about all the valuable memories that you shared together as a couple. Think of all the love that you are now free to give to other people in the future. There are many positives in this situation and you just have to open your eyes to them.
3. Take this newfound opportunity for freedom to focus on building yourself.
Now that you are free from your relationship, you now have the opportunity to be more selfish. Yes, you didn’t want this breakup to occur and you were perfectly fine with being a selfless and thoughtful girlfriend. But things didn’t work out and now you have to make the most out of the situation that you’re in. You can do so by allowing yourself to be selfish. Think more about your well-being and your own personal goals in life. Go after the things that you want without being distracted by love or relationships. Take this time to spend solely on yourself and don’t feel guilty about it.
4. Take this as a learning experience as you move on in life.
Every setback is an opportunity for learning and development. Learn from your bad relationship and take all these lessons into whatever relationships that you’re going to have in the future. The best way to get over the past is to learn from it.
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