Are you starting to fall in love?
The idea of love at first sight is a very polarizing concept. There are some people who swear by it while there is a substantial bulk of others who think that it’s a load of rubbish. On one hand, some people genuinely believe that you can meet a person and instantly know that you’re meant to be together for the rest of your lives. But some people also operate under the impression that love isn’t something that is instantaneous; how it’s something that has to be built up over a broad course of time.
Regardless of what’s true, there is no denying the fact that love can come at very different speeds for so many people. There are those who think they fall in love almost instantaneously while there are also those who take a great deal of time before they can confidently affirm their love for another person. It varies greatly because of our different experiences, philosophies, and personalities.
But that’s just the thing: how do we really know when we’re in love with someone? Is there some sort of checklist that we can refer to? Is it something innate that we just tend to figure out on our own? What if our feelings are difficult abstract concepts that are designed to deceive us? There are plenty of cases of people whose emotions have gotten the best of them. So how do we make sure that our feelings and emotions aren’t necessarily just giving into our biases? How do we know that we aren’t being blinded from the truth as far as our feelings are concerned?
It’s a slippery slope for a lot of people especially those who aren’t as experienced yet. If you think you’ve fallen in love with someone, that’s great. Love is such a nice and wonderful feelings. It’s one of the greatest things we could ever experience as human beings. Love is the pinnacle of social interaction and we should never take it for granted should it choose to come our way. But we must also make it a point to be guarded. We must make sure to always be careful of our feelings and our emotions. We can’t afford to let our hearts lead the way while we completely ignore what our minds are telling us.
If you really want to be able to figure out what you’re feeling, you are going to have to make sure that you practice a healthy sense of introspection and reflection. Remember that you never want to go into a relationship with any deluded emotions. You never want to think that you are in love with someone even when you really aren’t. That’s why it’s important for you to always be able to figure out what it is that you’re feeling at any given moment. You shouldn’t be afraid of just sitting down and taking a long hard look at your relationship and all of the feelings that surround it. To help you gain a better perspective on things, here are a few thoughts that you need to ponder on to really make sure that you understand how you’re feeling.
1. Are your feelings driven purely by physical attraction?
If so, then that might be a problem. Perhaps what you’re really feeling is a deep infatuation for a person’s looks and not really a deep love for a person as a whole. You have to be able to clearly distinguish between both scenarios. Try stripping away all of that person’s good looks if you still have strong feelings for them, then it’s probably love.
2. Is everything that you’re feeling now something that you’ve experienced in the past?
Use history as a guide. Let the experiences of your past guide you through the present and into the future. If you have experienced similar feelings for other people before, think about how those situations ended up. Learn from the lessons of your past.
3. Is it too soon for you to have been able to acknowledge their flaws?
You can’t really be in love with a person unless you’ve seen that person’s flaws and imperfections. You have to consider the possibility that perhaps this person so greatly affects you on an emotional level is because you are only seeing the good parts. Make sure you get a glimpse of the bigger picture before coming to a decision.
4. Do the both of you share similar philosophies, goals, interests, and values?
Another important thing to really think about is whether you are both compatible. A love for another person won’t lead to anywhere unless the both of you are actually compatible with one another. You have to be able to gauge if the both of you will be able to establish a strong connection with one another that you can actually build upon the longer that you stay together.
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