Whenever you find yourself in a serious relationship, it’s likely that you would eventually question whether the person you’re with is actually “the one.” You might have had your fair share of brushes with relationships and romance before. You might have even fallen in love with a lot of different people in the past. But that doesn’t invalidate the love that you might feel for the person that you’re currently with.
Sometimes, in life, the love that you share with another person doesn’t always work out for the best. Remember that you can change throughout the course of your life. Your perspectives, priorities, philosophies, and circumstances can change. And sometimes, your love isn’t going to be adaptable enough to survive these changes. And that’s why it’s okay to question whether the one you love is really the one you’re meant to be with forever.
But is the concept of “the one” really valid in this day and age?
Lesli Doares, a couples consultant and marriage therapist, shares her thoughts on the matter, “There is no ‘one’ person, but more a ‘perfect’ type. His type can change over the course of your life because we don’t stay the same over the years. Different attributes might be important at different times in our lives. ‘The one’ embodies as many of those attributes at one time as possible — no one will meet them all.”
Whenever you are with “the one,” then you become attracted to that person on a mental, physical, and emotional level. It’s not always easy to distinguish whether you’re really with this person who you are seemingly perfectly compatible with. But there are definitely a few signs that might indicate whether the person you’re dating is the one for you or not.
If you find that a lot of the stuff that will be listed on here actually applies to you and your partner, then it’s likely that you’re already in a relationship with “the one.” And when that’s the case, you need to make sure that you fight like hell for this relationship to work.
1. You don’t consider any of their flaws to be deal-breakers.
You don’t really have any deal-breakers when it comes to your partner. You acknowledge the fact that they’re not perfect. You know that they’re far from being flawless. But that doesn’t matter much to you. You just focus on the fact that you love them.
2. They really commit to being in a relationship with you.
You have someone who is really committed to being with you for the long-term. You know that they aren’t just playing around with you. You know that they’re not just going to be keeping things casual with you. They genuinely want to make things work with you and it shows in the effort that they give.
3. You are the best version of yourself because of them.
You know that you are the best possible version of yourself because of the fact that you’re in a relationship together. You know that your partner inspires and motivates you everyday to be your best self. You are always encouraged to put your best foot forward because of your relationship.
4. You are able to overcome challenges in your relationship because you work together.
It’s not that you don’t go through any problems or challenges in your relationship. That’s not what defines the strength of the bond that you have. But rather, it’s the fact that you are always able to overcome the challenges in your relationship as a result of working together as a couple. You don’t get fazed by having to work for your romance.
5. You have similar goals, interests, principles, and passions.
You share a lot of similar goals, passions, interests, and principles. And while you don’t necessarily have to see eye to eye on everything, your similar personalities lessen the amount of friction in your relationship. It’s so easy for you to just align your lives with one another’s.
6. You always feel comfortable being your true self when you’re around them.
You never feel pressured to be or act any other way other than who you really are. You are always encouraged to just let your genuine self shine. You are never made to feel like you are being judged or criticized for being wired a certain way. You just always feel comfortable with being yourself.
7. Somehow, it all just feels right.
And somehow, whenever you are with this person, everything just feels right. It all feels like everything is right where it needs to be. You can’t exactly rationalize why you feel this way. You can’t put your finger on why everything feels so great. You just know that whenever you are with this person, all is right in the world. And you really wouldn’t want to have it any other way.