Whenever you find yourself in a serious relationship, it’s likely that you would eventually question whether the person you’re with is actually “the one.” You might have had your fair share of brushes with relationships and romance before. You might have even fallen in love with a lot of different people in the past. But that doesn’t invalidate the love that you might feel for the person that you’re currently with.
Sometimes, in life, the love that you share with another person doesn’t always work out for the best. Remember that you can change throughout the course of your life. Your perspectives, priorities, philosophies, and circumstances can change. And sometimes, your love isn’t going to be adaptable enough to survive these changes. And that’s why it’s okay to question whether the one you love is really the one you’re meant to be with forever.
But is the concept of “the one” really valid in this day and age?
Lesli Doares, a couples consultant and marriage therapist, shares her thoughts on the matter, “There is no ‘one’ person, but more a ‘perfect’ type. His type can change over the course of your life because we don’t stay the same over the years. Different attributes might be important at different times in our lives. ‘The one’ embodies as many of those attributes at one time as possible — no one will meet them all.”
Whenever you are with “the one,” then you become attracted to that person on a mental, physical, and emotional level. It’s not always easy to distinguish whether you’re really with this person who you are seemingly perfectly compatible with. But there are definitely a few signs that might indicate whether the person you’re dating is the one for you or not.
If you find that a lot of the stuff that will be listed on here actually applies to you and your partner, then it’s likely that you’re already in a relationship with “the one.” And when that’s the case, you need to make sure that you fight like hell for this relationship to work.
1. You don’t consider any of their flaws to be deal-breakers.
You don’t really have any deal-breakers when it comes to your partner. You acknowledge the fact that they’re not perfect. You know that they’re far from being flawless. But that doesn’t matter much to you. You just focus on the fact that you love them.
2. They really commit to being in a relationship with you.
You have someone who is really committed to being with you for the long-term. You know that they aren’t just playing around with you. You know that they’re not just going to be keeping things casual with you. They genuinely want to make things work with you and it shows in the effort that they give.
3. You are the best version of yourself because of them.
You know that you are the best possible version of yourself because of the fact that you’re in a relationship together. You know that your partner inspires and motivates you everyday to be your best self. You are always encouraged to put your best foot forward because of your relationship.
4. You are able to overcome challenges in your relationship because you work together.
It’s not that you don’t go through any problems or challenges in your relationship. That’s not what defines the strength of the bond that you have. But rather, it’s the fact that you are always able to overcome the challenges in your relationship as a result of working together as a couple. You don’t get fazed by having to work for your romance.
5. You have similar goals, interests, principles, and passions.
You share a lot of similar goals, passions, interests, and principles. And while you don’t necessarily have to see eye to eye on everything, your similar personalities lessen the amount of friction in your relationship. It’s so easy for you to just align your lives with one another’s.
6. You always feel comfortable being your true self when you’re around them.
You never feel pressured to be or act any other way other than who you really are. You are always encouraged to just let your genuine self shine. You are never made to feel like you are being judged or criticized for being wired a certain way. You just always feel comfortable with being yourself.
7. Somehow, it all just feels right.
And somehow, whenever you are with this person, everything just feels right. It all feels like everything is right where it needs to be. You can’t exactly rationalize why you feel this way. You can’t put your finger on why everything feels so great. You just know that whenever you are with this person, all is right in the world. And you really wouldn’t want to have it any other way.
I have met this amazing guy he told me he loved me and so did I. He has a very busy stressful career I understand that completely and always support him. But in my stupid insecurity hurt him so bad now I do not know what to do and if he will ever forgive me. I am so sad. He is the best. Do I just wait. I tried asking for forgiveness no response. I have never felt this way about anyone in my life. And never asked advice from anyone just desperate here. Please need help with this one. Maybe I lost him already but cant just give up. Thank you.
Dear reader lol , sounds tough lol 😂 you should give him a gift ahah , the way to a persons heart is always love
lol I suck at giving presents lol but it does matter that you show that
Person in different ways that you love them for who they are also lol , don’t be to scared to lose them everything is always connected so that’s kind of impossible to lose them ahah
. Good luck
I’m so to hear it under a sense of depression,sad,not wanting to be around anyone and so on. I’m in the same boat. I lose what I thought was going to be my last partner, n time will time if it was true love or just a sick game. I have been tricked,lied too,n disrespect more than I have ever been. Humbled me alot, made me think differently about relationships n people in general. Real hurts to know tht person fooled me in such a sense it became to be A LOT dangerous. But I’m learning to try n give it time, things have been clear for the past 4 yrs. I just loved him n wanted to be with him. Let me just say this most women tht have been through toxicity in a relationship, sucks a lot out of u. All the advice I can offer, which you might laugh n make jokes about what I say or might take it in I don’t.know. Ok you love him/her right? Well you should first know tht you know tht you know you love her. Now are you willing to drop everything you have going on in ur lifen you want her/him in ur life for the day until tomorrow, or would it be a lifetime commitment? You ask urself n be true to urself. I don’t know what your spiritual lifee is or if you are religious, I don’t care. But I have a God his name is Jesus n I truly believe in he’s ways n how a person should live. Yes I know I’m crazy but put God before the person you love n care about. See if u don’t believe or know who Jesus is than you don’t know n don’t believe. But if u don’t know him and want to know him, Ask. Ok that’s 3 things, forth thing is never ever be dishonest to a a relationship say ur sorry n show her/him you mean it. Because believe you me ur relationship wouldn’t be in harm’s way or just down right unhealthy for the both of u just because of life, I don’t know only you n tht person knows, talk to him/her be open n honest, tht is if u still trust him/her to do tht. Because my relationship has gotta to where I’m not happy n I don’t smile, n it’s unfair to both parties. I smile more when I’m by myself, so sad to me. But it’s took a real toll on a lot of things in my life, all the way down to my children being hurt, embarrassed, n disappointment. And who knows I may never get tht back. And guess what I still care n love this person deeply. My rock, so so sad! But anyway back to you, and be truly careful to not make her feel like this again. One more thing do you believe in ur heart tht she/he loves you truly. Trust, Trust,Trust thts a deal breaker in any relationship,job,whatever you gotta have tht. Ane personal have been the person tht wasn’t trustworthy to some folks in my life. And it’s not worth losing the people/person you did it, even if u had a problem with tht person, to me it’s not right. I wish I could give mine all back, p unfortunately when you do it is done you know it’s one of those things. Guilt,hurt,n shame is a couple more crappy things u get. So be trustworthy. And always always show affection, interesting, tell them what u like n dislike. Understanding is where sometimes relationships are misconstrued, n one person mine think them way is the right way n the other think differently. Happy medium helps too. Even if you don’t like doing something he/her likes just being there sometimes is all tht needed to happen. You n ur partner need to talk really n be open for real. You a lot n a lot to old to be doing the most. Stay prayed up Bye
To the date March 9 two replies: you are a mess. Kudos for trying talking like me. But my one advice will be, please don’t get into writing until you are sober. Misplaced ‘lol’ and ‘Jesus’ look really trashy. 🥴
I met a guy unexpectedly in May 2023. We got along so well. Weour chenistry was undeniably firing thru the roof!!
Unfortunately we live in different parts of the world. Somehow, we managed to meet up one second time in Oct 2023.
Its now June 2024 & we communicate thru text every so often. I am willing to move to where he lives but we have not formalised whatever we have. How do i let him know that i am.happy to relocate if only we step up whatever relationship we currently have? We are in our 60s. So we dont have a liferime to waste.. Thanks.