Not texting your ex after a breakup is really important. But even though we know it’s the right thing to do, many of us find it hard to stop ourselves from getting in touch.
To help you with this, here are some things to remember:
1. The relationship was a bad relationship
We’ve all been there – the rollercoaster ride of a bad relationship. The drama, the tears, the sleepless nights. Texting your ex might feel like a lifeline to the past, but remember why it ended. Those reasons haven’t magically vanished. Save yourself the heartache.
2. They don’t deserve that moment of smug satisfaction
Picture this: you hit send on that text, and your ex gets a little ego boost. Is that really what you want? They hurt you, remember? Don’t hand them the satisfaction of thinking they still have a hold on you. You should better invest your energy strength is elsewhere.
3. It could make you feel worse
Emotions can be tricky, and talking to your ex is like poking at them with a stick. What if they’re far away or not kind? What if they’re with someone new? Not knowing can make you feel worse. Keep your heart safe. Getting better means moving forward, not looking back.
4. You could say something you’ll regret
Emotions can be strong, and in the middle of strong feelings, you might say things you can’t undo. Those hurtful words won’t be good for anyone – not for you, not for your ex. Pause, think, and avoid the pain of later regret.
5. You Need To Take Your Time To Heal
Getting over heartbreak doesn’t happen right away. It takes time to heal and feel better. Talking to your ex won’t make things better quickly; it might actually slow down your healing. Focus on yourself instead – you’re worth it.
6. Don’t Let Your Ex Think You Have No Other Options
Sending that message might make your ex think they’re your only choice. But guess what? You’re amazing, and your value doesn’t depend on them. Prove to yourself and others that you’re moving ahead confidently. That’s showing your strength.
7. Your Ex May Ignore You
Let’s be real: they might not answer. And that silence can hurt and bring back old pain. It’s not worth risking your feelings for a possible brush-off. Keep your self-respect. You’re tougher than a read receipt (or not getting one).
8. Your Happiness Shouldn’t Depend on Them
Sending a message won’t magically make you happy again. Relying on your ex for your happiness gives them power over your emotions. Take charge of your own joy. Build a life that’s fulfilling on your terms, regardless of who’s in it.
9. Moving Forward Requires Moving On
Messaging your ex keeps you tied to the past, making it tough to step into what’s next. To move ahead, you have to release what’s holding you. Look to the future and welcome the chances ahead. Your ex isn’t the only chapter in your story.
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