Breakups are never really anyone’s cup of tea. They suck – plainly.
When you’re in a long-term relationship with someone, it can get really messy when you have to call it quits. There are just so many emotions at play and so much has already been invested in what you have. It’s not going to be easy to find peace and order amidst all of that chaos and turmoil. But alas, when the relationship gets too hard to bear, sometimes, a breakup becomes complete necessity and inevitability. Or does it always have to be like that?
But what if there was another way? What if I told you that I was in a relationship that was close to death – and I did something that managed to breathe new life into it? Well, if you’re interested in hearing about my story and finding out if you’re going to be able to adopt it for your own, then read on.
I am currently in a long-term relationship with my partner; and it’s been great. We are as strong as ever and I’m looking forward to the life that we’re going to have together. However, I have to be honest with you. Things haven’t always been so great. There was a time where our relationship was so close to dying. I had felt like it was only a matter of days before he would decide to end things with me. And I was even readying myself for it in anticipation. But then, I decided to take matters into my own hands and make a Hail Mary play. I won’t go into details as to why we were so down in the dumps with our relationship.
That’s completely irrelevant. All that you need to know right now is what I did to turn things around. And what I did was this: I sat my partner down, and I told him how I felt. I told him that I wasn’t happy about how things were going and that a change was needed. However, I also told him that I wasn’t really ready to let go of us just yet because I still believed in our love and I still wanted to give it another chance. And so, I proposed to him that we take 2 weeks off – we take a break from being a couple. I told him that we needed to be on our own for a bit to recalibrate.
And that’s exactly what we did. Just when our relationship was nearing is demise, we decided to take a break for two weeks. No contact. No communication. Nothing. We did this in the hopes that it would be able to mend whatever wounds we had as a couple. We did this hoping that our relationship would be able to recuperate. And little did we know that a break was exactly what our relationship needed to nurse its way back to health.
After two weeks of being apart from one another, we got back together. And when we did so, the love was infinitely so much stronger between the two of us. Both of us realized that we had really missed each other when we were apart. We were both craving for each other’s presence and company. Our absences from each other’s lives made us appreciate one another even more. You know what they say; absence makes the heart grow fonder. And that’s exactly what happened to us. You never really do know what you have until it’s gone; and it was when we were gone from each other’s lives where we really learned to appreciate each other more.
Yes, our problems didn’t magically go away just because we went on a break. Of course not. However, what changed within us was the willingness to actually address this problem. What that break taught us is that neither of us are ready to let each other go; and if that meant having to work like hell to solve the problems in our relationship, we were both willing to do it. We just started talking and communicating more. We both showed a willingness to make a few compromises here and there. And this was when we both realized that we needed to take a step back and look at our relationship from a grander perspective in order for us to understand just how lucky we were to still be in it.
Of course, it’s not like we don’t have our problems now. Yes, we’re going strong and we’re as happy as can be. But our relationship still faces its fair share of challenges and trials. But we both know that we want to be at each other’s side as we’re facing these challenges. At the end of the day, we wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.
