1. He still tries to stay in touch with you. If you guys have already broken up, then there should be no reason for him to still want to engage in constant communication with you. He should be living his own life without you at this point.
2. He always manufactures ways to bump into you out of the blue. He is always looking to just “randomly” bump into you in public even when there’s really no reason for you to be in that same place after all. He’s desperate and he’s just trying to come into contact with you.
3. He still tries to fish for details about you and your life by asking other people that you both know. He still wants to be in the loop with your life. He still wants to make sure that he knows what you’re up to. He still feels incredibly invested in your life.
4. He still tries to stay in touch with the people in your life that he shouldn’t really have any connections with at this point. Of course, when you got into a relationship, your social lives might have merged somewhat. But he doesn’t want to lose that connection with you. He’s still holding on to those mutual relationships even if your relationship has already ended.
5. He asks a lot of questions to other people whenever he discovers that you’ve been dating. He really wants to keep tabs on your romantic life because he hasn’t let you go just yet. He still thinks that the two of you can still get back together. But he wants to make sure that he’s not competing with anyone else for your heart. He’s searching for any signs that you might still have feelings for him or that you’re not truly happy in your new relationship. Deep down, he hopes for the signs you’ve found your soulmate to somehow contradict his fears. This way, he can position himself as the one who truly understands you, fueling his desire to rekindle what you once had.
6. He puts a lot of effort into making it seem like he has changed since the two of you have broken up. He knows that the two of you broke up for a reason or two. But he wants you to think that he’s actually worth taking another chance on. He wants to convince you that he’s a guy worth starting things up with again. That’s why he will make it seem like he’s not the same guy as the one you broke up with. He may adopt new habits or interests, hoping to present a transformed version of himself that aligns with your expectations. However, it’s essential to remain vigilant for signs your partner is still attached to past patterns, as these could indicate that his efforts are more about persuasion than genuine change. Ultimately, recognizing these red flags will help you determine whether his newfound charm is sincere or merely a facade.
7. He goes out of his way to make you jealous. And you see it all over his social media. He makes it seem like he’s living that great life. He will make it seem like he’s enjoying a world without you in it. He’s just trying to put on an image of happiness so that you might think you’re missing out on that happiness too. He wants to make you regret your breakup.
8. He refuses to abide by the “no contact” rule with you. Naturally, when a lot of couples break up, they establish a kind of rule wherein they bar contact from one another. A breakup is usually an opportunity for two people to establish some space from each other. But he doesn’t honour that rule with you at all. He still wants to be in your life as much as possible. This disregard for boundaries indicates that he may not fully accept the reality of the breakup. While it can be difficult to let go, focusing on strategies to cope with heartbreak can help you regain your strength and perspective. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends and engaging in self-care activities can make a significant difference during this time.
9. He is constantly interacting with you on social media. Whenever you post a new photo, he is always so quick to give it a comment. Whenever he sees you pop up online, he’s going to try to chat things up with you. He will like every single post you make in an effort to make you notice him more.
10. He completely avoids you. Yes, just because he hasn’t been reaching out to you doesn’t mean that he’s over you. It just might mean that he’s TRYING to get over you. He’s desperately trying to move on from you and he knows he can’t do so if he’s always around you. He wants to stay away from you so that he can try to forget about his feelings for you. However, this behavior can sometimes mask deeper emotions; it’s one of the subtle signs your ex still cares. Even in their absence, they may be grappling with unresolved feelings that they haven’t fully managed to let go of. It can be confusing to interpret their silence, but often, it’s a sign that they aren’t entirely ready to move on. This internal struggle can lead to a push-and-pull dynamic, where their actions contradict their emotions. In fact, the very act of distancing themselves might indicate that your ex still shows signs of attachment, unable to fully detach from the connection you once shared. It’s crucial to recognize that silence doesn’t equate to indifference; instead, it might reflect a complex emotional landscape they are navigating.
11. He always texts or calls you whenever he’s drunk. You know what they say: a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. He might not be reaching out to you when he’s sober. But when he’s drunk, he just can’t help himself. The heart wants what it wants. And he definitely still wants you.
12. He refuses to go on dates even when the two of you have already been broken up for quite a while. At some point, both of you have to get back out there into the dating world. But he’s not ready to do so. He still wants to make himself available to you. He still wants to save himself for you in the hopes that you’re still interested.
13. He still tries to do things for you. He still goes out of his way to make your life easier. He still tries to act like your boyfriend even though he knows that he isn’t anymore. It’s as if he clings to the remnants of what you once had, but this behavior only complicates the healing process. While his intentions may seem noble, it’s important to recognize the toxic relationship red flags that often accompany such a tangled dynamic. Ultimately, you deserve someone who fully commits to a future with you, rather than lingering in the shadows of the past.
