Several heartbreaking relationship stories have been shared with you before, and today’s story is one of the saddest in our blog’s history. Parents love their children more than anything else in the world. The love they have for their children can never be measured. How would a parent feel if they discovered after spending almost 18 years with their children that they were not theirs? It did happen to a father who posted his story on Reddit and revealed the saddest thing that ever happened to him. Read the story below:
The Story:
“My wife Kelly and I have known each other for over 20 years and have been married for 18 years. We have 17-year-old twins, a boy and a girl, and I found out that they aren’t mine 2 days ago. My kids were got those ancestry tests for the family and we found out that I am not their father.
Kelly and I met each other as coworkers at a job right out of college. We both were very ambitious, so after working for a couple of years, we decided to start our own business. We fell in love, and a year after starting out business, we got married. A couple of months into marriage, we had a massive fight over the direction we wanted to take our business in, and I left our home. She came to me a couple of weeks later, and we compromised.
We’ve been inseparable ever since. Kelly got pregnant around that time. We’ve been through thick and thin; our business has been through several hardships but we weathered them together. We were always there for each other; we could always depend on each other. I loved her so much. She was a part of me and I couldn’t even imagine a life without her.
I trusted her absolutely until this happened. Kelly has been crying and apologizing constantly. She told me that during the time we had that fight at the start of our marriage, she got drunk one night and slept with a random guy, and that she has not cheated on me since.
The betrayal has left me disoriented. I told Kelly I needed time to process this and I’m currently staying at a hotel. I don’t know what I’m even doing anymore – the last two days have been a blur. I feel like a zombie, completely unable to feel or process anything. I don’t intend to abandon my kids – I might not be their father, but I’m still their dad and I love them dearly.
Right now, I’m sitting on my hotel bed and I have not eaten anything today. My thoughts are a mess, so I’m writing this down to help me process. Kelly has always been a great wife and an excellent business partner. I don’t know if I’ll be able to look at her the same again or if I’ll be the same person again. I don’t know how to move forward.“
The Responses:
In response to the post, over 3900 people responded; here is a selection of some of the most interesting posts:
Spazyk commented:
I found out my Dad wasn’t my Dad after taking the Ancestry DNA test. My mother said she doesn’t remember.
Edit: She said she doesn’t remember who my father is. After I asked her she blocked me on social media and hasn’t had contact with me in over three years.
shadespeak asked:
Is anybody wondering who got them those ancestry test?👀👀
TheDevilsAdvokaat replied to shadespeak:
“Yep.
In my own family, my sister has jet black hair and olive skin and is short.
My older brother has red hair and fair skin and freckles and is tall and solid.
My younger brother is tall and thin with blond hair.
ANd I am tall and thin with brown hair.
I used to joke about us having different fathers when I was a teen. Nowadays though I wonder…“
AtheistComic shown some care:
“First things first — you gotta take care of yourself. Get something to eat. Relax and watch tv. Just unwind a little. You’ve had a rough bit of news and that is world shattering for anyone to have to deal with. You need to focus on yourself right now just give yourself what you need and you will figure this out when you have time. It’s already been 17 years — another year won’t hurt. When you’re ready, you can tell your wife what you are going to do. If she only cheated the one time then that’s up to you if it’s too much or not. That’s not my business to say. But you could have a family here if you work at it and if you want to keep it together.”
PrincessPnyButtercup adviced:
Please PLEASE make sure to sit your kids down and TELL THEM that you love them no matter what, and that this ISN’T THEIR FAULT. Even if legally they are considered adults they are still teenagers and WILL BLAIM THEMSELVES FOR THIS unless you talk with them!
This post has over 3900 comments, you can read them on Reddit here.
What’s Your Take?
Would you like to add anything else to this man’s story? Feel free to add your two cents to this father’s story in the comments section below:
Source: Reddit
This is got to be very painful to digest. First of all pray and ask God for strength to get you through this and to relieve your hurt and pain. Then get counseling for yourself first and then for your family. This should help you process things and move forward with whatever your decision. Praying for your family and your future.
Pray to God for his support to help you understand and what will next, please don’t leave the kids out in the cold
What you really need to decide is if you are going to throw away all those years of hard work for the one thing she did wrong or are you going to fight for you family because of all the things she did right?
It’s been a long time ago. You have shared a life together. It will be difficult and painful, but find the compassion and magnanimity in your heart and forgive her.
Don’t destroy your life.Move on.
It has not been a long time. She was betraying him right up to the day he found out. It is as much a betrayal to not tell him that he has not actually had children
i understand how upsetting this is having been deceived for 17 years but benefit of the doubt to your wife. perhaps she believed they were yours – people can convince themselves of anything. you left her and in a moment of vulnerability and intoxication she made a huge error in judgement but that being said, she is still the woman you have watched and spent time with over the last 17 years. If she says it never happened again and if you can retrace times spent with her i would tend to believe her. you have made it work before and its been going strong from the sounds of it. Don’t throw 17 years away over a past mistake. you can’t change the past but if you truly love each other – you can accept, forgive and move onwards towards a future of growing old together. the children should be told by both of you – together. If you can overlook one mistake then you are showing the kids or young adults that supporting one another in good times and bad, is the key to a solid foundation and they may end up respecting you both a lot more rather than turning against one or the other of you – most likely mama more.
What is the believe they were yours? All, she had to do was tell the truth but if she did tell the truth! She was only worried about herself. She worried about her husband divorcing and her having to raise those kids with out him. Its obvious, her husband is a producer. Females pull this shit all the time! They know for conception, they are the mother of the child/children in their womb. The husband, BF, booty call or one night stand doesn’t know if they are the biological father. You be foolish to take the word of a female. They look for security, best deal and not to be embarrassed. Damn the kids or the non biological father.
I know a guy this happened to – he was engaged to one woman and sleeping with a host of others behind his fiancés back. Then this chick shows up claiming she’s pregnant and he dumps his fiancé only to find out four babies later that the first one wasn’t his. I feel no sympathy for this guy as he hurt a lot of woman. You play with fire, expect to be burned. The guy in this article – my heart aches for him.
Your wife must of known there was a possibility that the twins where not yours from the start and should of told you this..