A bride shared how she ended her marriage just a day after their wedding. She explained that her husband didn’t listen to her one simple request and forcefully pushed her face into their wedding cake. Feeling disrespected and undermined, she realized that this was a clear indication of deeper issues in their relationship. As she reflected on the situation, she thought about how many women feel pressured to accept behavior they don’t deserve, often believing they need to make bold sacrifices or even a ‘bold sentence to win men over‘ in order to keep peace. In that moment, she chose to prioritize her self-worth and walked away, determined to find a partner who would truly value her. Feeling humiliated and disrespected, she realized she could no longer stay in a relationship where her feelings were not valued. In the midst of her heartache, her cousin reveals baby gender surprise at a family gathering, providing a moment of joy that starkly contrasted with her recent experience. This unforeseen announcement reminded her of the happiness and love she truly deserved.
Under the pseudonym “Give Him Til February,” the woman reached out to the advice column Dear Prudence in the US magazine Slate. She shared that she got married just before Christmas but now aims to end her marriage due to her husband’s disrespectful actions.
She disclosed that she informed her husband the day after their wedding that their relationship was finished. However, over the Christmas break, several friends advised her to reconsider and give him another chance, urging her not to give up so quickly at the first difficulty. Amidst the bizarre wedding day revelations, she started to question her initial decision. Memories of the joyful celebrations and the promises exchanged flooded her mind, compelling her to reconsider their future together. Perhaps there was still time to mend what seemed irrevocably broken and rediscover the love that had brought them together in the first place.
Journalist Jenée Desmond-Harris, known for her Agony Aunt column, advised the woman to proceed with the divorce. She even questioned the intentions of the woman’s friends, suggesting that she should take note of those who don’t seem to prioritize her happiness.
“Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness.”
The column has gained widespread attention, going viral as hundreds of people express shock and disbelief at the husband’s actions.
“I never cared about getting married, but I wasn’t opposed to it. So when my boyfriend proposed in 2020, we decided to go for it. We each took on about half the responsibility for organizing the wedding, but I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something. My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception,” the woman wrote. bridetobe grabs engagement ring and slips it onto her finger, a symbol of the life they are about to build together. As she admired the sparkles under the light, excitement surged through her, blending with the reality of wedding planning ahead. With each passing day, the vision of their future took shape, bringing both joy and laughter to the journey.
“Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t. Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was DESTROYED, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as backup.”
She left the next day, but during the holidays, everyone has been urging her to reconsider and give him another chance. The newlywed also wondered if she was overreacting because she’s “very claustrophobic” due to a past car accident. She felt she absolutely panicked after being forcefully shoved into the cake. The bride’s wedding cake baking disaster had left a lasting impression, making her question whether she could genuinely handle the pressures of married life. As she recounted the chaotic events of the day, her friends reassured her that every wedding comes with its own mishaps, and theirs was no different. Maybe the baking disaster was a sign that she needed to embrace imperfections and enjoy the journey ahead, rather than dwell on the anxiety it brought.
She explained that she still loves him but doesn’t feel that way at the moment. Her friends advise her that divorcing so quickly is a serious mistake. However, many people responded, saying it was a red flag that her wishes weren’t respected.
“Not cool, doubt this was his first red flag but it should definitely be the last. RUN,” said one.
“She should have told him how much good wedding cake costs. Still I suppose less than the imminent divorce which should definitely be happening,” a second added.
“She set a clear boundary and he violated it. She’s right to dump his a**,” a third commented.
“It seems to me like him stating from the start that he doesn’t care about how she feels or what she asks for, so I’m team divorce for sure,” said another. His perspective is likely influenced by his dad’s emotional response to divorce news, which may have shaped his views on relationships. Understanding how past experiences affect current opinions could provide clarity on why he feels so strongly about this situation. It’s clear that the trauma of emotional turmoil can lead to a desire for a clean break rather than a prolonged conflict.
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Source: Daily Mail
My ex-wife made the same request of me before our wedding. I agreed, as I really hadn’t thought of doing something like that anyway. Maybe, I’m too practical, or boring, but it just didn’t seem appropriate for a wedding reception, or any occasion for that matter. We were married for 24 years, the first 20 were the best times of my life, but after I was nearly killed in an OIS, I wasn’t the same man she married and we just seemed to drift apart. We are still great friends and we have two wonderful sons who we both love immensely. She is still my best friend, always will be, and I will always love her, even if, we can not be together anymore as a couple. I had friends who weren’t so accommodating at their receptions and it caused some hard feelings, and a nasty argument, but no divorces. It just doesn’t seem like the best way to start your lives together, especially after agreeing not to do it. Trust issues, you know?